Are you REALLY Listening?
Hey Time to Shine Squad!
On a Zoom with my mentor today. I was explaining how I was having a bit of a hard time really connecting with some of my coaching clients. He asked if I was ‘listening’ and asked again if I was ‘really listening’ I thought I had, but also know that I was ready to come back with an answer before they had finished their thought.
This is something that I’ve really had to work on. I lived in a split family and even spent a period of time in an orphanage. With this looming in my rear view mirror of life, I find myself really over-trying to fit in and the way I would do that is with trying to always be right which put me in a position of over-over-talking people. And at that point in my life I had to be right.
As I worked my way through the real estate profession and to coaching awesome peeps online I knew that way of communicating will never fly. My Mama always said ‘God gave you 2 ears and one mouth for a reason’. I’ve gotten much better. But was nice to get a refresher today.
Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply. They’re either speaking or preparing to speak. They’re filtering everything through their own paradigms, reading their autobiography into other people’s lives. – Stephen R. Covey.
I also did a quick two minute video on my thoughts of ‘listening’ You can View it here.
What’s your thoughts? Do you struggle with this?
Stephen Covey is someone who I love to read and refer back to him quite a bit for a refresher. If you have not read his book ‘The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People’ I strongly recommend that you do! As always please let me know your thoughts!
Fergie
DISCLOSURE: I may be an affiliate for products that I recommend. If you purchase those items through my links I will earn a commission. You will not pay more when buying a product through my link. In fact, I oftentimes am able to negotiate a lower rate (or bonuses) not available elsewhere.
Plus, when you order through my link, it helps me to continue to offer you lots of free stuff. Thank you in advance for your support
