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 L. Scott Ferguson: [00:00:00] Time To Shine Today Podcast Varsity Squad. It is Scott Ferguson. Thank you so much for tuning in. This is a, such a treat. They get to bring you my good friend, Katarina Polanska. She’s got a really cool story. She was very transparent, very. easy to talk to and when she was just dropping knowledge nuggets after knowledge nuggets with regards to really kind of how to really build a solid relationship with her steps and her programs.

So like if you’re really a high achiever out there in the world, but maybe your relationships are just lacking just a little bit, please tune in, break out your notebooks. I know it’s weird to say, but break out your notebooks on this and maybe sit back and relax because she, the knowledge nuggets she drops on how to really build authentic.

Sustainable relationships was just super on point. So without further ado, here’s my really good friend, Katarina Polonska. Let’s level up. Time to shine today. Podcast Varsity Squad. This is Scott Ferguson, and I am blessed to bring you guys this absolutely [00:01:00] phenomenal friend of mine who’s over in Ibiza. I’m going to say it wrong, Ibiza, but a good friend, Katarina Polonska and she’s a rock star coach. She helps little high performers, high achievers.

Be as successful in their relationships and basically their home life as they are in their careers. She’s accredited coach to the ICF, a high performance relationship coach and gender dynamic social scientist. She utilizes extensive behavioral science experience, transformational coaching, embodied cognition methodologies and mindfulness to guide individuals and paving the pathways to their life a partner.

And she’s also a smarty pants here. She’s a she’s got a gender studies master’s degree. Thank you. From the University of Oxford and DEI background from the University of Cambridge. So there’s some big words there, but off, off Mike, your squad, we had really fun conversation. So she’s gonna, for all of us out there, she’ll kind of probably dumb it down a little bit for us so we can really understand where she’s coming from.

But Kenrenia, thank you so much for [00:02:00] coming on. Please introduce yourself to Time to Shine Today Podcast Varsity Squad. But first, what’s your favorite color?

Katarina Polonska: Oh, good question. First thing that comes to mind is green, like evergreen. Okay. Lovely green tree, Pacific Northwest, evergreen. I miss, I miss living in Vancouver.

So yeah, that green.

L. Scott Ferguson: Get that. And green is like rebirth. It’s kind of like new, it’s a color of modern too, in the United States anyway. So take that as well. It’s a good positive color. Yeah. Yes, absolutely. It’s a fine color. So. Let’s get to the roots a little bit. Like what, what’s your story? We’ll say kind of like, kind of coming up through the ranks and being the rockstar, Harley Souder after coach that you are right now.

Katarina Polonska: Oh, bless you. What an introduction as well. Thank you for that. It’s the boost that I needed. So the story, I always like to think the story is kind of segmented into professional, academic, personal, like three pronged story. And maybe I’ll start with the. Maybe I’ll start with the professional, [00:03:00] how I got into the coaching space.

So I actually did my first ever coaching qualification when I was 17. My

L. Scott Ferguson: two years ago,

Katarina Polonska: half a lifetime ago, half a lifetime ago, over half a time ago. My, my dad, I was very lucky to grow up with a very Eastern European household that was interpersonal development. And anyone who is from Eastern Europe will know that there’s a type of family who are like this.

It’s I grew up with Tony Robbins books and, and all of that. I remember finding Susan Jeffers, the like field of fear or something, guide to long lasting love and all of this stuff. So I grew up with that. And when I was 17, I had insomnia. And my dad, rather than getting me a therapist was like, just train to be a coach and cure yourself.

So he paid for me to do my first coaching qualification and Gosh,

L. Scott Ferguson: what was that? Well, do you remember the qualification?

Katarina Polonska: It was NLP coaching.

L. Scott Ferguson: Oh, Neuro Linguistic Programming. Yes. Yeah. Okay.

Katarina Polonska: [00:04:00] Yeah. Which is profound. I mean, I was 17. Yeah. Your

L. Scott Ferguson: brain’s not even molded yet. And you’re into the NLP. That’s amazing.

Yeah,

Katarina Polonska: I know. It was amazing. It was amazing. Like it, it was, yeah, profound. And. After that, I then went off and had a stint in entrepreneurship. I actually lived in Ibiza after I did my undergrad and I was working in the champagne and wine trade. So very different space. And that career took me to living in Dubai in the Middle East.

And when I was living in the Middle East, yeah, I, I loved it for the first year. Didn’t love it for the second year. And it was in that second year that I became kind of passionate about equality, human rights, justice, and all the things. And that’s when I decided I’m going to leave the champagne and wine trade, go and do something that has impact in my career.

And that’s what really prompted me to go to Oxford to do a master’s degree and study gender, gender studies. So did that after that worked briefly in philanthropy, which led me to working [00:05:00] with a lot of founders and high achievers, because I was essentially working with philanthropists. And in that experience, I, I spent a couple of years in philanthropy, but slowly moved into behavioral science.

Kind of the, you know, two like short story is I burnt out in philanthropy. That’s the truth. I found it pretty exhausting chasing wealthy people for money.

L. Scott Ferguson: Donate it and everything else. Yeah.

Katarina Polonska: I know I was building programs. I was working with Syrian refugees. It was really interesting, compelling programs, but.

I was my ear burnt out. So that’s what got me to behavioral science. And I started out as an organizational consultant. So working with companies like fortune 500 companies and consulting them on their people strategy. So how can I help the people be happier and healthier and work better, et cetera. And then slowly, but surely that led me into my D and I journey because of the gender background, I did a lot of that.

And then that slowly evolved into coaching because over time I realized that In terms of kind of like [00:06:00] training, the coaching questions can often have a longer lasting impact than just teaching. Right. You kind of need that hybrid approach. Okay. And so long story short, I started working for a huge coaching company.

They’re called better up the biggest coaching company in the world. Absolutely. And yeah, I loved my coaches. I love my coach. And so that’s what got me to train into the ICF and start my own coaching practice. Now that’s kind of a professional parallel to all of that. Academically, and the academic one was kind of a little bit dry, so I’ll zoom through this.

I specialized in studying English.

I

Katarina Polonska: don’t know why I’ve always, I actually got asked that today, like, why have you been interested in masculinity, femininity? I think it’s partly because of the Eastern European background. It’s a very gendered society that I grew up in. There was a very strong message around what it is to be a feminine woman and a career woman.

And they were kind of very siloed against each other. I So I grew up with these kind of competing narratives and when I was doing my [00:07:00] undergrad, I decided to study masculinity because I was really interested in where was masculinity going, getting a little bit lost in, in American society. I specialized in that.

And and then for my master’s degree coming out of Dubai, I was also really interested in masculinity, femininity, kind of gender dynamics and how it all plays out. So that was my academic background, which really actually informs so much of my work. Now, I didn’t think it would, but it really does. And then the personal side of things, I spent my, all my twenties, I think, looking for love.

Like I’ve, I really was someone who, , I had a great time in my twenties. I, Built my career. I lived in like five different countries. I was zooming around the world, traveling and everything. But in the back of my mind, of course, I was always looking for that person. I was always looking for that connection and I had relationships.

I had boyfriends and whatever. My parents went through a divorce, which was really painful to see in my twenties. Very surprising, [00:08:00] completely out of the blue. And as an adult, it was a very different experience to what I think it would have been if I’d been a child because no one really protected me from the reality of it.

Right. Like as an adult, I became kind of the rock of the family and had both, both parents leaning on me and that was incredibly hard. So that definitely shaped my understanding of how difficult relationships can be. And that after 37 years of marriage, It can fall apart. Right. And I remember I was really trying to analyze and understand with my own therapist of where did they go wrong.

So that was a big kind of formative experience. And then as I entered my thirties, And I’d, , moved to Vancouver, got myself an apartment, decided to settle down. I thought now’s the time I’m probably going to meet the one. Sure. And build my own life. A nice Canadian

L. Scott Ferguson: guy, right?

Katarina Polonska: Exactly. And I found him.

I found him. I, I remember I was like, yeah, I found him on Bumble and he [00:09:00] ticked all of my boxes. And we had the most wonderful courtship and everything was picture perfect, like truly picture perfect. And we moved in together, , like he moved into my flat and then we were living together and then we got engaged and everything on the surface seemed perfect.

Truly. Like, I don’t think anyone externally would have ever suspected that it wasn’t right. But deep down, I think he knew it deep down. I think we both knew it wasn’t the right fit. My gut was telling me the whole time, this is, This is wrong. And I would lie in bed at night, honestly, thinking like, is this it, which I never thought people actually do, but I was doing that really questioning, right?

Like I’ve got the job. I’ve got this amazing lifestyle. I live in the most beautiful city in the world, Vancouver. I don’t even work long hours and I earn great money. And I got this incredible partner, this incredible life. Why am I feeling so empty? And for various reasons, I ended up calling off the engagement.

Okay. So I did call him off the [00:10:00] engagement and it was the right thing to do on so many levels. As soon as I called it off, I felt such a relief. I think he felt such a relief, but it was also the most humbling thing I think I’ve been through because it was kind of like, how did I get here? How in my thirties, after everything, doing everything I thought I needed to do, did I have to call this off after three years?

, having the wedding planned and everything, it was humiliating, truly. And that’s when I kind of decided, like, I need to figure this out because I don’t want to die alone. I want to understand where I’ve gone wrong. I’ve followed all the rules and the steps that I believed I should follow. And I’ve done everything right.

I thought, followed the advice of my therapist and blah, blah, blah. But really, it was actually my own relationship coach at the time who opened my eyes to things being not quite what they seemed. And she kind of, she gave me that confidence to leave. Sure. And so anyhow, in that time, I threw myself [00:11:00] into everything.

I was, I was probably the most obsessive person about trying to figure out. Love where I’d gone wrong and where it goes, right. And I did so many types of therapy and so much coaching and so much studying and reading, and I kind of isolated myself a little bit. At the same time, I should also add Ukraine war had started.

And so I was, , I was kind of going through my own grief and distraught feelings there, lives in Ukraine. And and then, yeah, it was, I got to this point where I now understand it’s like stage 12 of my program. I got to this point where I was feeling so. good about myself and my life and so relaxed and so free and so unattached and yet so clear on what it is that I wanted.

I met my husband so unexpectedly on a dance floor drinking wine. Right. Yeah. A lot

L. Scott Ferguson: of things happen. It’s kind of like, , like when you’re in the shower [00:12:00] and your best ideas come to you because you’re not thinking about anything else. I can just see you on the dance floor with a glass of wine. You meet the dude, you weren’t expecting it.

Bam. It happens. That’s amazing. So

Katarina Polonska: exactly, exactly

L. Scott Ferguson: within the coaching world. Let’s just throw it out there. What do you think makes a great coach?

Katarina Polonska: Really good question. I actually have not been asked that on a, on a podcast. Really good question. Cause I don’t think there are that many out there. Truly. I think there’s a lot of bad coaches out there.

What makes a good coach is asking the right questions, asking good questions. I mean, that’s probably the biggest one having ethics, right? I, I cannot stand coaches who promise. Miracles and huge outcomes that aren’t realistic and then coming in with their own agenda and steering the conversation into a certain direction, right?

They think they’re

L. Scott Ferguson: [00:13:00] consultants. That’s not a coach. I mean, I’m a big believer that everybody knows what they want. They just don’t know how to talk themselves into it and that they’re. That problem that resides in their heart. The solution’s there too. Like I, I put, if I was to coach you, right, we were live in person, which in South Florida, I’m blessed to have a lot of in person clients.

I go out to their car when I want to see how their car looks right. You can tell how the organization of life, but. I put him in the driver’s seat and I’m like, listen, this, this little like rear view mirror here, that’s your past. It’s a great place to visit. It’s a great place to learn from where we’re not living there.

This windshield, huge, big, scary, but it, since 2011 they started putting these things in the car called a GPS. And that’s what I am as a coach. I’m not going to be able to buckle your fricking seatbelt. I’m not going to be able to start your fricking car. But when you get stuck, that’s what a coach is there for.

And you come up with the ideas. What I’m saying? That’s the thing with a good coach and I can just see you coaching Giving your [00:14:00] clients like a safe space to share , I get I can see that with you. So thank you. Let’s say we’re in a discovery Part right period right now that making sure you’re the right horse for the course the right car, coach, right?

And you’re having the discussion. Is there any secret sauce if you don’t mind sharing that? Help some, maybe shine a light on that initial blind spot.

Katarina Polonska: Oh, that’s a really good question. And yeah, that’s a, that’s a very good question. Cause , I was about to say like, I didn’t typically look for that blind spot in the discovery session.

That’s kind of in the first session. Right. That being said, I. So what I have is I have a 12 stage curriculum, it’s kind of 13 stages, but it’s like 12 stages of like the steps that we have to go through, pretty much all of us have to go through in order to transform into the type of person who can easily and effortlessly attract the right love.

Right. And it’s a process of inner growth and inner work.

L. Scott Ferguson: Okay.

Katarina Polonska: What I went through is my clients go [00:15:00] through, it’s what a lot of people do very ad hoc, kind of without a system. They just kind of. Do it in, not in a systematic way, which is what drove me now, to be honest. And I think quite, I like, I like a methodology.

I like logic. I can see that. Yeah. I a

L. Scott Ferguson: master’s. It’s like, yeah, you have the steps. I love that. Yeah. Okay.

Katarina Polonska: Cause I, I honestly, I don’t know how much money I spent like throwing. Yeah, Spaghetti at the wall. to say, dude, you must have spent

L. Scott Ferguson: thousands upon thousands in coaching. Oh yeah, I actually calculated

Katarina Polonska: it.

It was like around the 100k mark. I was going to say, okay. So I put it all into a system and yeah, looking at the blind spots is actually stage two of my system where I help them identify where are their blockers. That being said though. One of the biggest and fastest way to identify the blockers. And this is actually what I’m going to be doing in my masterclass is to look at the 12 stages, which I will typically walk a client through or prospective client through and begin to discern where is it that they’re actually getting surprised by information.

And they haven’t even [00:16:00] looked at this stuff. Right. I had a client earlier today and we’re on stage two. He was like, I’ve never actually looked at this. I’ve never done work on this. And that’s when I’m like, Oh, okay. Stage two, like there’s a ton of work to be done here. Right. So. It’s again, having a system allows me to get quite clear on what have and haven’t they done and where, why we need to focus in order to get that transformation going so that they can take that progress and move forward to finding, finding that’s

L. Scott Ferguson: beautiful.

Like I’m not that systemized. I’m more of a, , I’m blessed to coach professional athletes, actors, actresses, and stuff like that. I’m more of a, My superpower is curiosity. So I know where it goes, but I’m my coach that coaches me Yes, I’m ex military and they know the stuff and so she’s got this system that just Puts it through with that in , it’s funny cuz I, I, I’ve been married twice, right?

And it like, I didn’t, I’m 52 now, but I, it took me until I was [00:17:00] 47 to meet Susan, , so it was like, but it’s funny. Some of the stuff you’re talking about actually led to meet her, ? So it was just amazing. So let’s say you’re might be in another discovery session. Is there any good question that you wish they would ask you, but never do?

Katarina Polonska: Ooh, that’s another really good question. You’re on time to

L. Scott Ferguson: shine today, Katarina. All right.

Katarina Polonska: Let me think. I guess like it would be, I don’t know if there’s anything that I would want them to ask, but I think what could be actually, maybe, maybe there is, maybe there is, I think what it would be is to ask about. the level of kind of tenacity and dedication. Ooh, there you go. What’s expected of

L. Scott Ferguson: me, right? Right.

Katarina Polonska: Like, I think that’s the thing. I think it’s bananas when I hear some people out there [00:18:00] promising, like, you’ll find love in like six weeks. And it’s like, transformation doesn’t happen that quickly. Right. Like my group program is six months. My one on one is three months. And I, I definitely don’t promise you a husband or a wife at the end, that would be bongos, right?

That would be lies. Yeah. I do promise that I will give you the tools and techniques and teach you everything that you need to do and get you on the way. But you gotta drive the car. Absolutely. Yeah, you have unlimited access on WhatsApp to me. And I told my client again today, I’m like, call me, use me, voice me, tell me where you’re at.

Let me lean in. Because what I would have loved. And I was doing my own journey was having access to someone who’s done it before to help guide me. Right. And I didn’t have, and that’s what I consciously wanted to create here is if you want to do this quickly and you can, but it’s going to take daily discipline and doing that in a work, right.

It’s not going to be from like half an hour, , a week of scrambling around before our call. Like, [00:19:00] you’re gonna have to, it’s gonna have to be a daily practice. It’s like a muscle You can work, buddy. It’s like yoga.

L. Scott Ferguson: Yeah. So I, I tell you, I’m glad you brought yoga up. It is like I practice, I’m on my mat 2D two days a week.

But yeah, it was, , it it something, it’s inch by inch. It’s a cinch Right? Absolutely. By the yard. It’s hard. Everyone wants it now. It’s like, do you gotta put the work in, ? Yeah. And that’s why I’m not the right coach for everybody. That’s why I refer out probably 70% of the people. Absolutely.

But those who stay win. , that’s what I’ll tell him. It’s not going to be overnight, man. You don’t build empires, you don’t build a successful company, you don’t lose 40 pounds, which took you 10 years to put on in three months, , so that’s beautiful. Katarina, have you seen the movie Back to the Future?

Katarina Polonska: Oh my goodness, a such a long time ago,

L. Scott Ferguson: it’s going to be 40 years old, right? Yeah. Anyways, let’s get that DeLorean with Marty McFly, right? Let’s go back to the double deuce, the 22 year old Kettering. What kind of knowledge nuggets might you drop on her? Not to change anything because your journey has been pretty freaking awesome.

A lot of teachable moments, a lot learned, but maybe to help her [00:20:00] shorten her learning curve, blast through, maybe just a little bit quicker.

Katarina Polonska: Yeah. What a lovely question. It’s something I’ve actually been thinking about a lot because 22 is when my parents when when my father left my mother. Okay. And honestly, I look back now and I’m like, oh, that was such a painful time.

So incredibly painful to see that. And I think the, the biggest, well, some of the biggest wisdom bits that I’ve gained since then is to let. This isn’t related to the divorce, but it’s to let myself be seen sooner. And what I mean by that is, yeah, as someone who’s always been very high achieving and, , very high performing and jumping through all the hoops in front of me, I’ve always been very good at performing and I see this with pretty much all my clients.

We’re all very good at performing at performing a role, being successful at work, being successful at business. And that is a fantastic skill [00:21:00] in the world of being professionalism and career success. But when it comes to our personal lives, don’t want to be performing, right? That’s like the opposite. You can perform and role play and have fun with that.

And if you, after you’ve got to the core of who you are and you’ve allowed yourself to be seen, then it’s okay. Cause then you’re actually probably leaning into like your shadow and, , kind of. What is very healing in that space, but people don’t do that. Typically, they come in performing from the get go and having a mask of who they want to be in that relationship.

And that’s something I was queen of doing, which is how I ended up engaged to the wrong person, right? Like I was playing this performance as was he, as are so many people out there. And so I think the advice I’d give myself is let yourself be seen. Right. No matter how scary it is, no matter how vulnerable it is, no matter how awful and grotesque and horrible I think I am and how people are going to run a mile when they see the real me, to start letting it happen because life will align so [00:22:00] much faster the sooner that I start letting myself be seen.

And you’re transparent. Yes. I

L. Scott Ferguson: love it. So Katarina, how do you want your dash remembered then? That little line in between your incarnation date and your expiration date, your life date and death date. Hopefully it’s way down the line, but how does Katarina want her dash remembered?

Katarina Polonska: I wanna be remembered for someone who spread love

I can see that, yeah. Someone who, who spread love. I, that’s something I’ve always wanted actually. I think even when I, , originally I said I’m gonna be a war journalist and spread the truth, but it really, I looking to spread love. Mm, always been looking to spread love because I don’t think that there is actually enough in the world.

I think there’s enough, there’s a lot of it, but I don’t think there’s enough. And if I can be someone who helps, people who often don’t get much love. Especially in the worlds that they operate in, which again, I look at high achievers, I look at high performers. It is hard out there. Like, I don’t care how successful you are, how many millions you’ve made, how great your startup is.

It’s freaking hard out [00:23:00] there. Yeah. And if I can bring some love and softness to that and something that is actually gonna lead into, like, I genuinely love living my life, then that’s what I want to do.

L. Scott Ferguson: That’s beautiful. So if people really knew Katarina, they would know what?

Katarina Polonska: Oh,

so

Katarina Polonska: that the meaning of life is love.

That’s fine. Yeah, I, I think that is true though. Yeah. Right. I think really when we distill authenticity being to be authentic to be in full expression of who you are is to actually love yourself and be able to reveal that. Right. So it’s to be truthful, it’s to be genuine. in love. I love it. I’m 100 percent on board with that.

L. Scott Ferguson: So then what do you think people might misunderstand the most about Katarina?

Katarina Polonska: Yeah, really good question. And I think it’s that In, in creating a [00:24:00] system or even a methodology around getting love, there’s something unromantic or manipulative about it. It’s something a bit artificial and contrived. Right. I hear that. It’s like resistance. I’m like, Oh, I want to work with you, but I don’t know, I feel like applying a methodology to my love life.

It’s going to be horrible. And I’m like, but it’s not, it’s not manipulation. Absolutely. Absolutely. It’s just me having gone through all of that personal development and being an incredibly privileged person who worked in behavioral science, grew up with a coach for a dad, did my coaching so young, had all the therapy under the sun, went to retreats, spent so much money.

I’ve been personally interested in this stuff and had heartache and heartbreak that would actually get me to go and get more help. So I’ve taken the guesswork out for you. Yeah. I’ve plugged it all together into a proven toolkit. That’s all it is. It’s not manipulation. It’s support. [00:25:00] And a lot of the pay achievers that you work with, they have other people, they, they get to a point, but they can’t get there alone and they have other people organizing their stuff.

L. Scott Ferguson: Okay. Making sure that, that, as I’m, I’m blessed to have Tiffany and, and Donnie. Yeah. I’ll tell you what I can not do. And my agent Angela, I have to tell her that too. Or if not, she’ll get mad just getting Angela. Mm-Hmm. . But , if I didn’t have those people, there’s no way I could keep progressing.

But you don’t have those people in a relationship. What I’m saying? It’s you and the partner, right? And I can just see your organization that you help put them together with their 12 and 13 steps, right? This says, this is parallel to what you have with an assistant in this, in that, right? But you’re giving organization to your fricking love life and in your relationships.

I’ve never thought of it until like, right now about that. , that’s amazing. You just brought something to like, thank you so much. I’d love you for that. That’s beautiful. So [00:26:00] Katarina, then what is your definition of a life well lived?

Katarina Polonska: A life full of love.

L. Scott Ferguson: I knew you were going to say that. That’s why I asked it.

Katarina Polonska: It’s a life where you love yourself. And that’s so cliche and people are sick of that. I understand. But self love doesn’t have to look fluffy and pink and woo woo. Right? Self love looks like knowing who you are in your core. Including your BS and the things that you don’t love about yourself, but you accept and you embrace as part of you.

Right. And knowing who you are inside out and showing up and leading from that essence. Rather than leading from the head or leading from the mask. Right. It’s about being grounded in your authenticity and letting the chips fall where they may.

L. Scott Ferguson: Authentic transparency. That’s, that’s amazing. That’s great.

Time to shine today, Podcast Varsity Squad. We are back and Katarina, you and I, hopefully one day we meet up, , in person or whatnot, but [00:27:00] we’ll talk about some of these questions, 15, 20 minutes.

But today you got five seconds with no explanations and they can all be answered that way. I promise. You ready to level up? Okay. Yeah, here we go. All right. Katarina, what is the best leveling up advice you’ve ever received?

Katarina Polonska: To love yourself.

L. Scott Ferguson: Beautiful. So share with me one of your personal habits that contributes to your success.

Katarina Polonska: Meditating daily.

L. Scott Ferguson: Awesome. So you see me maybe walking down the street, or at an event, or just you see me somewhere and you’re like, Fergie looks like he’s in his doldrums a little bit. What book really kind of flipped a switch in your head to really kind of help you move in, step into yourself a little bit, and out of the doldrums?

Katarina Polonska: Which book? Michael Singer’s The Untethered Soul. Yes,

L. Scott Ferguson: absolutely. Your most commonly used emoji when you text?

Katarina Polonska: Hearts.

Hearts,

L. Scott Ferguson: love it. Nicknames growing up? Katty. Katty? Awesome. [00:28:00] So tell me about a hidden talent and or superpower that you have that nobody knows about until now.

Katarina Polonska: Question. I think like creative thinking, but not in a typical way. I feel you. Staring at a problem and being like, what’s a really strange way of solving this? No one has thought of before.

L. Scott Ferguson: Love it. Chess checkers or Monopoly?

Katarina Polonska: Chess.

L. Scott Ferguson: Okay. Headline for your life?

Katarina Polonska: Creator of love?

L. Scott Ferguson: Beautiful. Go to ice cream flavor?

Katarina Polonska: Ooh. Oh God, too many. Stratagello. I live in Spain. Very cool.

L. Scott Ferguson: Love. Yeah. Love it. There’s a sandwich called the Kete. Build that sandwich for me. What’s on it?

Katarina Polonska: Good question. Probably lots. Well, this sounds actually quite horrible. I was going to say salmon with vegetables, but that probably won’t be [00:29:00] that nice. Will it something along the lines of that

L. Scott Ferguson: though? Nice. Love it. Favorite charity and or organization you like to give your time or money to.

Katarina Polonska: I love giving what we can.

I’m sorry. Give directly. I’d say give directly.

L. Scott Ferguson: Okay. Yeah. So last question, you can elaborate on this one a little bit, but the best decade of music, 60s, 70s, 80s, or 90s.

Wow.

Katarina Polonska: I’m going to say 90s. Okay.

L. Scott Ferguson: Very cool. I figure. All right. I’m just, I graduated in 1990, so it’s like from high school. So it’s like the eighties was my jam, , that’s awesome.

So Katarina, my friend, how can we find you?

KatarinaPolonsky.

Katarina Polonska: com my website. And in that, I’ve got some cool free downloads. There’s a love life audit, which is part of my stage one that you can download. Okay. And my manifesto for a healthy and secure relationship. And then I also do have a masterclass coming up.

Yeah,

L. Scott Ferguson: [00:30:00] 29th, right? Yes. Okay. Leap day. Yeah.

Katarina Polonska: Yeah, the day that women for men

L. Scott Ferguson: so tell me a little bit about what’s going on in there at the master class

Katarina Polonska: Yeah, so I get asked a lot about what’s the behavioral science of attraction? What are the 12 stages? How, why do you help, like, high performers and high achievers find love?

Like, why that demographic? And so I figured what better way than to get out of my own comfort zone and do a live masterclass. That I can promote and bring in people that I might not necessarily know. Sure. And yeah, and run a Moskos and answer questions live. So it’ll be, it’ll be fun. I’m kind of terrified, but I’m sure it’ll be.

You’ll crush

L. Scott Ferguson: it. Let me ask you, will there be a replay of the masterclass?

If

Katarina Polonska: zoom webinar allows me to then yes,

L. Scott Ferguson: yeah, they do Yeah, okay So yeah Just make sure you record that because again just for timing with our favorite color being green and evergreen We wanted to keep it out there [00:31:00] as much as we can Just get that out there beautiful.

So yeah, i’ll make sure that spot watch for your emails for that if this might drop after february 29th, but Just go back and check your emails because you have gotten a couple of emails about the masterclass itself. So yeah, excellent. And Katarina, do me one last solid, please. And leave us with one last knowledge nugget we can take with us, internalize and take action on.

Katarina Polonska: Great question. Last knowledge nugget I would say is if you don’t meditate yet, that’s fine. Do what you can though, to start practicing bringing your attention inward. And into your body and into your core and just noticing what’s coming up for you every day, when you’re out and about, when you’re relating to people, when you’re with a partner, when you’re on a date, to start noticing and taking stock of what’s going on for you, that is the Is the fastest hack to begin to familiarize itself with what’s really going on.

Love

L. Scott Ferguson: it. And squad, we had a, actually kind of a [00:32:00] masterclass here with my good friend, Katarina, , she kind of has segmented stories about growing up. I mean, she started a really kind of first coaching at 17 years old and she lived kind of in an anomaly with a European household That was really into personal development, which led her into down different paths.

And when she left the champagne and wine trade, she really knew that she wanted to help people and thank our creator that that’s what she did because she loves to live healthier and happier. And she got really into the curiosity between the masculine and feminine. This curiosity, I think, is definitely one of her, , superpowers.

In the back of her mind, she was always kind of looking for connections. And she realized that when she relaxed a little bit, that that final connection kind of really came and that if you get into a situation where you’re feeling yourself a little bit and feeling above really kind of step back, humble yourself and really do a deep dive.

Katarina really brought that up to us. And if you’re looking [00:33:00] for a good coach like Katarina. Make sure that they are a solid listener, that they’re not a consultant telling you what to do. They’re going to listen and game plan with you, that I can just see Katarina just listening, not just with her ears, but with her eyes and all their other bodies, what I call listening with your neck, like really leaning into the client, which I know that she was, she does that, , she has a tenacity.

And dedication that really wants to see you succeed. And she really came up with a 12 and 13 step program that will really help you get there. And she will remind you that let yourself be seen sooner, take the mask off, no matter how scary it is, be authentic. And be transparent. I mean, this girl is planting trees.

She’s never going to sit in the shade of, I mean, it’s just phenomenal. And she’s also does it for the intention, not the attention. Like if you go to her social and if you’re watching a Vimeo or YouTube or whatnot, she’s absolutely stunning, but you don’t see her like using that part of it to sell things.

She’s really into wanting to help you the [00:34:00] spread love from a safe place. , know that whether it’s good, bad, and different, embrace it all, she reminded us. And lastly, if you’re not meditating, I’ll tell you what, five minutes a day for me changed my life with meditation. , and really what she reminded is to do what you can to start.

With the attention and your words and your body and your core and what comes to the surface, take stock in that, really lean into it because it’s going to clear your mind so much. And my good friend, Katarina levels up her health. She levels up her wealth. She’s earned a varsity squad letter here at time to shine today.

Thank you so much for coming on. I cannot wait to collaborate with you and rock a stage one day. This is going to be so much fun. Thank you so much for coming

on.

Katarina Polonska: Thank you so much for having me.

L. Scott Ferguson: You’re welcome. Chat soon.

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