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Hey, this is Sarah Elkins with Elkins consulting and if you really want to learn how to level up your life, you should be listening to the time to shine today podcast with my very good friend Scott Ferguson

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time to shine today podcast Farsi squatted Scott Ferguson and welcome to Episode 236. With the Sarah show my really good friend Sarah Elkins. Sarah is all about the stories that the strength are in your stories. I’m not going to say too much more because I want you to sit back relax, break out your notebooks because the knowledge nuggets that Sara drops are just above reproach. So I just want you to enjoy this episode. And let’s get ready to level up. Time to shine today podcast Firstly, squad This is Scott Ferguson and I got the surgery that told her I was gonna say that we’re here. I’m with my awesome awesome sauce friend, Sara Elkins, who’s an author, a coach, a speaker and she’s authored the book, your stories don’t define you. And you listen to the end, I’m gonna have a giveaway, where Sarah is gonna actually john Hancock, I’m gonna purchase the book, she’s going to john Hancock for me, maybe she’ll take care of the postage, to send it out to you. But we’ll have a lucky listener which we will go through at the end of this show. And Sarah is she lives in a kind of a rural area in Halina, Montana. But she’s rocking it she’s found peace and happiness with her, her husband, her little guy, or a little baby and the four babies that she has, which is just fantastic. I really want to do something like that too. and kind of get out of the rat race cell though looking at the ocean is pretty nice. But Sarah is your guide to uncovering stories for every audience. So executives, leaders and public speakers can effectively demonstrate their character values and vision. She’s a storyteller, communications coach, and author. She’s an engaging speaker known to entertain and inspire bringing the practical applications of storytelling to life. And Sarah please come on. Introduce yourself to the time to shine today podcast varsity squad. But first, what’s your favorite color? And why?

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Red? Right? Yeah, I mean, for one thing, it looks really good on me. I can wear red

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color wheel. Absolutely,

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that my color wheel. And I just think of it as kind of a powerful color. When I wear it. I feel stronger. I feel vibrant. I love red. I

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love it. I love it in red is like there’s a method to my madness when we build all your marketing around the color red, right? Because you said it. But we also like kind of get a personality gauge in for the five minutes, seven minutes we talked earlier. It’s like you’re not the common red, which is I’m sure there is a side of that. But that’s awesome. So thank you, for you for transparent, honest. So Sarah, let’s get into your story. Let’s get into your roots and kind of like, what brought you to be in the awesome I’m going to call you a coach salting because I know you’re a consultant and a coach. So what makes you the awesome Coach saltan that you are today?

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No, it started when I was so young, I was always being asked for advice and guidance, my little sister always asked me all of her friends came to me. And it was interesting, even in every job I ever had. I think the reason is that I create a space where people feel safe to share things with me, I share a level of vulnerability that I think is kind of uncommon. And it seems to allow people to feel that safe place to be able to share things with me that they wouldn’t share with anyone else. And I think my specialty really is people who generally are not touchy feely people, you know, the people who they may be affectionate like me, but they’re kind of uncomfortable with emotion, and but they’re dealing with stuff that they don’t really know how to deal with. And what I love to do is do the strengthsfinder assessment, find out really how they lead and how they build relationships, and then start looking at the stories that are affecting their internal messages. So we kind of dig down into the things that happened in your life that you’ve been defining yourself, buy those things that happen in your life, rather than shifting the story so that you can define yourself with more intention.

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I love that you said shift because everyone today is using pivot, you know so, you know, I’m gonna pivot like I’m a big believer in shifting I guess I could say shit. I guess I could use that right? But no, I love that. So let’s go back to the vulnerability. Okay, like what is some of your maybe secret sauce if you don’t mind me sharing when you’re maybe in a discovery place with some of that you possibly bring in on to coach them or consult them to help them find their blind spot through the vulnerability.

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Why I tell them some of mine One of the things that I love to describe is that when I was writing my book, I really struggled with that last part. You know, I did pretty well in the beginning wrote like 50 60% of it, but then I struggled with it. And when you look at my Strengths Finder results, I have strategic activator and adaptability all in my fire. So you and I, we don’t do routine, like there’s no such thing as we have habits for sure. But we don’t do routine. And I kept getting all these resources from family and friends trying to how you write a book. And here’s an article from this author who says that this, this is how you write a book. All of them, I’m not exaggerating, all of them talk about finding a routine being in the same place, same time every day with your cup of tea and your cat or whatever. I don’t have a cat By the way, I’m a dog person by

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two, we have a cat. My Pitbull? Absolutely.

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Oh, I love pickles. Anyway. So I’m reading all this stuff. And I’m trying to force myself into this, this person who’s a writer, that that is not what works for me. And finally, I got so frustrated with myself, I’m looking at my strengths, because I have my top six actually listed right in front of me on my desk. And I’m looking at these going, wait a minute, if you weren’t coaching someone with these talents, what strategies would you help them come up with? What strategies would make sense for your strengths since consistency is like number 28 on my list, no such thing as consistency. And I what I ended up doing is, I started randomly putting in 15 minute increments in my calendar, randomly. And I wouldn’t schedule anything for the next 45. After that, I had my laptop with me everywhere. And I had the book on my hard drive. So I didn’t have to access the internet to be able to write in it. And as soon as I get home, I’d upload it back, you know, backup version, but so anywhere I was my alarm would go off that it was time to write and I sit down and I start typing that. And it could be in the library, it could be at a coffee shop, it could be at home, it could be while I’m finishing up a hike with my dog, the alarm goes off, I immediately get to my computer and I start typing. And if after 15 minutes, I’m not in flow, and I’m not inspired. I close up my laptop and give myself that grace. Okay, you’re not in that place right now. But But you wrote, write accomplish something. And that builds confidence, especially for somebody without any sense of consistency, right? And it was amazing, because I did that. And within six weeks, my book was finished. Oh, wow. Because I gave myself my method. You know, I was like somebody else.

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I call him my writing sabbaticals because I’m in the middle of writing and I hate it. Okay, I think I told you off camera and audio here that it’s like I’ve never invented anything I’ve brokered real estate my whole life, I have a podcast, I didn’t invent it. So it’s like this book is the first thing and I’m having such a hard time. But I have my, you know, times that are set for my writing sabbaticals. And it’s really helped us. So I think we run in parallel lines. With that. So what do you think that makes a great coach or leader?

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Well, I think recognizing, first of all, recognizing where your talents are, where your natural strengths are, and making sure you’re using them with intention in everything you do, building relationships, leadership, inspiring others, that you’re using what you do really well, and that you’re acknowledging the talents of the people around you. Because we all have blind spots. Yes, my blind spots are consistency and accountability. Because I have this adaptability, this activator, I get people to do things they wouldn’t otherwise do. You know, that’s, that’s my, that’s what talents is to get people to step out where they wouldn’t otherwise do it. It’s a very common comment, I would never have done that. If it wasn’t for you. Like I get that a lot. Where I am having some blind spots as accountability, how do I keep myself accountable? And I look to other people and other tools to help me there. And what that does is, first of all, it makes it so that I don’t have to do the things that absolutely drain me. Excellent. Love it. And I’m acknowledging somebody else by either paying them or trading for coaching. Sure. And then what I’m doing is I’m saying you’re really good at this, and I’m not so good at this. So I need somebody to help me out with this blind spot. So you’re building a strong relationship, but you are acknowledging that you don’t think that way. Right? And that sometimes it’s going to be frustrating. You know, like I have the kind of person in my life It just says no. When I ask like, well, we could do this. And they’re like, no. But what I realized is that if I give them time to think through what I’m asking them to do, tell them what the resources are, we’re going to need that. And then they’ll eventually say, yes, but that first note can be really frustrating. And I need that. I need that in my way. I

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need that. No, you need to get that I find that with my clients as well. So can I ask this when you’re starting to work with a client? Or maybe they’re still in the discovery period? Is there any good question that you wish that they would ask you, but never do?

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That’s a good question.

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She’s trying to shine today, baby.

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Well, you know, I kind of wish that they would ask me where they were, I immediately get an impression that they are magic. Okay, so one of the things I noticed is that when I’m in discovery, people have a tendency to tell me all the things that are wrong. Sure. And they never asked me, where do you see my magic? Wow, what do you think I am just in your first impression? Where do you think I’m good? Where do you think I have potential? I would love to be asked that. Because when, when you’re really intuitive, and a really good listener, you pick up on what people are really good at yesterday, they dismiss. And I think that’s how we know our talents, is when we’re so dismissive of the compliments we get about them, because it’s so natural for us. We’re like, Oh, no, everybody does that. Sure. And this is not true. So if somebody asked me that question, I could pinpoint immediately. Like, this is what you’re really good at.

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This is where your magic is. I love that. Love that Sara. So, if you saw the movie Back to the Future, of course, so let’s go back and get the skin that DeLorean with Marty McFly. Let’s go back to the 22 year old Sara I don’t know if it’s Elkins yet but let’s go back to 22 year old Sarah what kind of knowledge nuggets that’s what we call them here. Time to shine today. What kind of knowledge nuggets are you dropping on the 22 year old Sarah to maybe help her level up shorten the learning curve and blast through?

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Well, first of all, I would give her the Mae West quote. I only regret the things I didn’t do, right? Because there were so many times where I had opportunities to get on stage or be part of something or jump in the ocean where I was so concerned about my I was so self conscious that I wouldn’t volunteer her I wouldn’t do it because I was so self conscious. And now I look back and whenever something comes up where I’m offered an opportunity that sounds like fun that I kind of want to do I really think about before I say no I think Am I gonna regret not doing this later on. Sure. And like 90% of the time I do it I jump I’m like I will regret it I’m gonna go for this I

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love that I love that you’re get busy living Li vi n you know you either get busy living or get busy dying and mas will take advantage of things you your subconscious just been sitting in there right saying man, that’d be awesome do and that opportunity comes along that subconscious is actually attracted that opportunity to you’ve been doing things to make it happen and just just get after I love it. So how do you want your dash remembered that that little line in between your incarnation date, your expiration date, your life date and death date on your on your tombstone? if you will? How do you want your dash remembered there

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as someone who created space for others to live their lives as fully as I’ve lived mine?

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Wow, that’s amazing. And you’re doing it on a daily basis. It’s like Jerry Maguire at the very end of the movie is like, I wish you my kind of success. You know, it’s true. That’s I love. I love seeing my coaching clients, my consulting clients and just seeing them grow and explode and level up and it gives you so much joy, right? Like knowing that you had a part of that growth, correct?

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Oh, it’s huge. It’s huge. And I remember years ago when I was I was doing coaching, but I was just getting started in the public speaking area. And I had a public speaking coaching client come to me and I’ve been performing in bands for the last 12 years or so. I sing in a rock band that I started. Let me back up a little. I started singing in a rock band for the first time in my life when I turned 40 Wow. Okay, first time in my life. Yeah. So talk about getting out being exposed, feeling vulnerable. Okay, it doesn’t get any. And so I remember this woman came to me and said that she had been offered this opportunity to go speak to a women’s organization about two 100 people in the audience and she didn’t even know where to start. And this is a successful business owner really successful, totally confident. She said, I don’t even know what I want to talk about what my point should be. And I said, Okay, yeah, we can work together. We work together, we only had three sessions before her speech. And she nailed it, Scott. She nailed it, she crushed it. And she started with a story, which, of course, is always the way that I start. She had a story about having wanted to be a puppeteer when she was a kid, like, and she had a puppet next to her as a prop. She just rocked that stage and she came back glowing. And part of me had that little, little tiny edge of when is it my turn because I wanted to rock the stage like that, too. And I really hadn’t had as many opportunities as I wanted. And then it in just the same amount of time in maybe three seconds. It flipped in my head. Oh, my gosh, I provided the foundation for this woman to do what she did. I provided the foundation for her to shine. And now that that’s all Yeah, and it took away any of the envy it was it right? As quick as it came it disappeared.

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Beautiful. And so what keeps you up at night, then?

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Oh, all the things I want to do. Yeah.

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According to your Strength Finders, which I dug deep into Strength Finders probably 2009 or 10. But like, I figured you’re gonna say that. So you find it hard to wind down at night.

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I do I have ideation in my top five as well, which means I constantly am having this internal dialogue of ideas, how I can help my coaching clients and what’s going on in my family life. The all the events that I’m planning, I’m currently in the middle of planning three different events. One is my mother and her twin sisters 75th birthday party, where we have 40 people coming from all over the country and London to come to this. So I’m planning that. So yeah, I have a really hard time shutting down that hamster on the wheel in my brain. I do find though, that if I can give myself a moment to be really present. Sure, I’ll lay on the floor and do some stretching and my dog comes he’s a giant chocolate lab mix weighs almost as much as I do. And he lays down next to me. And that’s how I decompress. I will lay down on my foam roller, you know, do some stretches and the dog comes over and he just lays down next to me. And he’s just kind of making sure you know cuz I’m vulnerable on the ground. He doesn’t like me to be vulnerable. So he’s, he’s wrong. I protect awesome

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like that. They just know you and they read you. So then what do people misunderstand about you the most?

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Oh, that’s an easy one. First of all people think people think that that, that I’m always like out there happy and outgoing and being like in your face. Super excited, super enthusiastic. And I am to a certain extent, but I heard many years ago from this amazing speaker Jerry may rally. She’s a Montana based speaker. She said being an introvert or an extrovert isn’t about being outgoing. It’s about how you recharge. Yes, big interactions. Right, right. Well, I spend hours and hours hiking by myself. Okay with my dog, not completely by myself. My dog is great company fully, right? About my answers. So I like to have my dog with me, but hours and hours. And it wasn’t until 2020 that I realized how important that solitary time was for me. Yeah, so yeah, that’s somebody and people misunderstand that. I’m not a touchy feely kind of person. Like I get kind of uncomfortable with emotion sometimes. Sure. And because I’m all about storytelling and communication and improving relationships, they get this impression that I’m super touchy feely and i’m not i’m not gooey. You I I love hugging. Yeah, I’m like a major hugger. But I’m not gooey,

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right? You and I are so parallel, like people on stage and they’ll laugh about like Fergie, because I’m like, I I’m a big rebounder like, trampoline, right? Do it every day. I’ve did it for almost 11 years, changed my life. It gets all the lymph fluid flowing, I bring it out on stage, and I’ll do it while I’m talking to people and just be fired up and people laugh. I keep them engaged, but bring them up. They have a rebound while I’m talking to everybody else in people like for you like but they also see me I go right back to my room. After I’m done like I’ll mingle for a minute but I go back to my room knowing that I’m spent from leaving it out there and I need that time as well in the United so parallel on that. That’s, that’s awesome.

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I have a question for you now, after you’ve had that time to decompress and process for a little while, because that’s what I’m doing when I go by myself, processing all the conversations, figuring out what I want to do next, making my to do list getting inspired for my next blog post or podcast or presentation of a keynote next week. But after that, I do need to externally process for somebody to trust. So do you do that as well? Absolutely.

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Absolutely. I have my squad of people, not Yes, people, but people that you know, I trust in that I can I have my lady who’s awesome at it, because we’re exact opposites. And then I have a couple of like, friends, you actually know one of them. And you know, I can decompress. And if something just hit me or an idea or something I mmediately put in my app that I use. And I use that to move forward because so many things happen while you’re performing for lack of a better term that ideas come in and like you just have to decompress it when you’re done. And the I have, I’ve just been blessed really to surround myself with the people that I have. So let’s take out of this equation. Your cell phone, let’s take out your computer notebook. Like anything electronic. What are three things that Sara can’t live without?

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My espresso? Okay, my espresso in the morning. And you’re not talking people right?

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Because my dog faces or things it can be an okay, my

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my dog is definitely. And I would say a book fiction. Okay, something that clears my head. Yeah,

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I love it. I love it. I love it. So I always had chicken wings in there cuz I’m a chicken wings snob. So what is Sarah’s definition of a life well lived?

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Oh, it’s all about the success of your relationships, the satisfaction of your relationships. So some of my coaching clients, they’re hitting that point in their 40s or 50s, where they’re just not satisfied with their relationships and they don’t know why they haven’t been able to, to pinpoint where it’s coming from. And that’s, that’s the magic of understanding how you think how you solve problems, how you build relationships, whatever tool you use, I happen to use strengthsfinder assessment. There’s the enneagram there’s disc, whatever tool you use it, it really helps guide finding satisfaction in your relationships, right? And especially if you hire a good coach, whatever the assessment you use, find a good coach to walk you through the results so that you build relationships in the way that’s meaningful to you. And life well lived as you know, I don’t hear anyone in their 90s wishing they worked more or wishing that they hadn’t spent so much time with their friends. Right like as far as I’m concerned it’s the health and satisfaction of your relationships that are all about lifelong

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it’s everything it’s absolutely time to shine today podcast firstly squat we are back with my really good friend Sarah here and Sarah we have a leveling up lightning round you and I we run so parallel and so many things. Could Talk an hour on each one of these questions. We got five seconds with no explanations. Great rock, and they can be ready. All right, let’s do this. Let’s level up here we go. What is the best leveling up advice series I’ve received

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and avoid self consciousness.

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Sure one of your personal habits that contributes to your success.

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Active listening,

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there you go beautiful, other than Elkins consulting COMM And of course time to shine today.com my shameless plug what website the Sarah like to go to to level up LinkedIn with me to LinkedIn, YouTube, Google, all three of those. So if you see me, and I’m just kind of walking around, you’re like Fergie looks like he’s in his doldrums. outside of your stories don’t define you. What book are you handing me to level up?

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That’s a good question. I have a few. But let’s start with Bob Berg’s the go giver.

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He’s He’s my six stores down neighbor. That’s funny.

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Yeah. And that can I just Can I just add one more? If you’re a leader, and you need to level up and you’re frustrated with where you are, and Heather youngers the art of caring leadership, yes. would be my second.

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You’re the first person ever to mention that. And that’s also great read. Great read. So Sarah, what is your most commonly used emoji when your heart Your heart, beautiful. So if you could stay, and Don’t lie to me on this one, okay, cuz if you could stay physically One age for the rest of your life. Keep the knowledge that you’ve gained and continue to gain wisdom. What age physically would you stay for the rest of your life? 5050 Okay, wow, I’m I’m coming up on 50 in a month or two months, and I would take 32 all day just because I’m martial artists. I do this a lot easier to get out of bed at 32 and have that knowledge, but I’ll give you 50 chess or checkers?

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soccers

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favorite charity and organization. I’m happy that you said checkers. Because if you would have said chess I’m like now, but I want to learn chess and it’s on my list. I will do it. But Dude, I don’t know.

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Oh no, I haven’t Cards Against Humanity.

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favorite charity and organization like to give your time or money to

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the YWCA and here are local one. Nice. They just do amazing work with women and their children and families.

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Love it. Love it. Last question. You can elaborate on this one. I’m looking forward to hearing your answer. But what is the best decade of music? 6070s 80s or 90s?

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Oh gosh, 60s. Totally 60s

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of the 60s. Yeah,

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the surf music adventures and Dale you have man or Astro man and oh my gosh. Jefferson Starship airplane that Jefferson Airplane. Yeah, great. Slick. Holy shit gray slick, right?

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Yeah, love it.

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I love seeing white rabbit and I do really awesome. Yeah, every time I do it, I’m out of breath at the end.

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Yeah, that’s awesome. That’s a great, great song. It’s funny how they kind of transformed into starship and the music and like do that’s not the stuff my mom and dad used to play in the background. You know, that’s I love to surf music, too. Because it’s like I literally say, you know, I Heart Radio play Beach Boys, right. And I will fall asleep to that every once in a while the channel. It’s not all Beach Boys. But it’s less of the genre. I love that. I love it. So let’s talk about your book. Okay. Your stories don’t define you. Like I like let’s go through. Like, the reason for writing it when exactly what it’s did for you.

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When I started my podcast, but it was actually about six months after I got this this catchphrase in my head. Your stories don’t define you how you tell them? Well, I was working with a coaching client public speaking communication, satisfaction and relationships. And she had Ms. And she said, I don’t want to share stories about my experience with Ms because I don’t want to be known as that lady that has MS. And I said, But wait a minute, it’s not what happens in your life that defines who you are. It’s how you handle those things that happened to you. And with you. So it’s not the MLS that defines you. It’s how you’ve dealt with it, how you handled it. And I said when I hear your stories, what they scream to me is resilience and persistence and grit. Not Oh, she’s sick with Ms. Like, that’s not how I see you at all. I said. So it’s it’s how you tell those stories, that is going to make the difference in how people are perceiving you and defining you as a speaker. And it was like this watershed moment for both of us. And shortly after that I came up with that title started my podcast. And what I realized is that, in general, people don’t know how to share a good story. They don’t know how to pick the right story for the right audience. They don’t necessarily know the main points of a story. Sure. And they don’t understand how the story they tell is actually affecting how people perceive Yes, absolutely. So what I love is being able to help people uncover a story about their talents that then demonstrates that talent. So for instance, instead of saying, Oh, I’m a really good cook, like who, why would you believe that? But if I tell you a story about the pizza oven we installed in our backyard, and how over the course of about four or five months I perfected a Tuscan style pizza crust. And the first one that came out of the oven last week when we had guests over was it had this brown butter and sage on it just like slathered on the top papers, a little bit of goat cheese chef and some red onions. And it came out of the oven and it’s just bubbling up on the sides and you break into it and instead of last sticky crust and oh my god, the flavor was amazing.

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Make me hungry. Okay.

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So I don’t have to say, Oh, I’m a good cook. Right? Right. I told the story, right. So when I realized people don’t know how to do that they don’t know how to be intentional about what you want to demonstrate to your audience, about yourself about your character through us. story that you share. So the book has all these worksheets and exercises to help start to create your own story portfolio. So you start collecting the stories that are going to demonstrate the character, the values, the vision, your talents, your your skill set, I don’t have to tell you, I’m really smart. If I can tell a story that demonstrates that or I’m a team player yet everyone says that So tell me a story that demonstrates that you love it that is about other people. That’s not just about you. You have to have the other characters and that’s what the book is designed to do. I

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love it that it’s interactive too. And it’s and I love that you and I had a conversation before this that I’m all about stories. My squatter listeners are out about stories and not spreadsheets. I love that you’ve did this I can’t wait to dig into it. I’m shamed saying I haven’t yet but I definitely will. In squad we’re gonna have a giveaway for my good friend Sarah’s book your stories don’t define you how you tell them well, if for the first person that comments on any one of our posts, whether it’s Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn Pinterest with we’ll just say you have to put in there Sarah show. And if you put in there I’ll know that you’ve listened to this far and we will make sure that we get a book out to you again on time to shine today’s dime, that Sarah hopefully will sign for us and send it out and I cannot wait really again to dig into it. So Sarah do me one huge favor and leave the time to shine today podcast Farsi squad with one last Knowledge Nugget you want us to take with us internalize and take action.

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When you’re about to face something that is stressful or uncomfortable for you develop a theme song, you have to have a list of theme songs that you use for particular situations where you need strength. So one of mine is feeling good. And another one is I feel good. I feel good, Yana what I’m about to step on stage and I need that kind of energy. That’s my theme song that goes in my head. So I would encourage everyone to have a list of theme songs and emotional one for when you’re feeling sad, as power one or ESB CTL you have theme songs in your head for those moments when you are uncomfortable. Or you just need that boost of of power and control internal strength.

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I love that I it’s funny they do. It’s like I love so glad you made it. So glad you made it. I think it’s fantastic. And I think he was like only like 16 when he sang that song too. That’s its reason. And then also I’m an m&m, you know, a guy that I have you know before martial arts competitions and stuff like that I have in my ear That’s fantastic. And squad. You’ve just got really a free masterclass from my good friend Sarah Elkins, she’s my friend, she’s a coach, she’s a speaker, she’s an author, she wants you to create space and she wants to create space for people to feel safe and understand it’s okay to be vulnerable. You know, she’ll say that a great leader will recognize where their strengths are. Use those strengths with intention in those gifts. And when she’s coaching people, she’ll acknowledge other people’s strengths. And so when you’re starting to work for a coach, work with a coach, you know, Sarah will say ask them where they see the magic within that first impression see where they’re going to see the good in you because she said she made a great point that a lot of people come and just say what’s shitty in their life and what’s not working, sir ask them to ask your coach. what’s good and what’s the magic you see in them she wants you to get busy living live by that Mae West quote about no regrets. Right? She wants she believes that there’s a satisfaction of your relationships is a key to a life well lived. So be great in your relationships, give give, give until it hurts so good. In line with people they’re going to help you where you’re not exactly strong. Okay? she tell you like the stories don’t define you how you tell them well, and that’s actually that the title of her book, and you know, develop a theme song when you’re in a situation where you’re not exactly comfortable. Or even maybe if you’re too excited, maybe to slow you down a little bit. But that’s just fantastic. No one’s ever said that on on my show before my answer anything about a life well lived or leaving you with the last knowledge I get. So I’m thinking I do that every day and I want you to as well squat, and Sarah levels up her health. She levels up her wealth. She’s humble yet hungry. She’s driven. She’s a pet lover. And thank you so much for coming on the show. Sarah I’m so so happy. I’m so blessed. I just love your guts. Thank you so much.

Unknown Speaker  34:45  

Thanks for hosting me Scott.

Unknown Speaker  34:46  

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