But she came into our session frustrated, not because of business, not because of money, because she felt like she was always the one initiating, always the one calling, always the one texting, always the one making plans. At one point, she looked at me and said, “Scott, I just want someone to think about me first for once.”

Man, I know some of you felt that right in your chest, because the real pain isn’t sending the text. The real pain is the story we create when nobody sends one back. we start making assumptions, “They [00:01:00] don’t care.

They don’t value me. They don’t think about me.” And before we know it, somebody else’s behaviors become the measuring stick of our self-worth. Here’s what I told her. Most people aren’t ignoring you, they’re distracted, overwhelmed, consumed by their own challenges, trying to survive their own lives. The question isn’t, “Why am I always the one reaching out?”

The better question is, “Why have I tied my value to who reaches out first?” That’s where the breakthrough happens, because your worth is not determined by somebody else’s level of initiative. So let me give you three quick steps. First, separate facts from stories. The fact might be they haven’t called, the story might be they don’t care.

Those two are two completely different things. And secondly, don’t let disappointment change your character. If you’re the connector, connect. If you’re the encourager, encourage. If you’re the one who checks in, keep checking in. That’s who you are. And third, pay attention to who consistently shows up. Not every relationship deserves equal access to your time, energy, and heart.

Invest where effort is reciprocated. Here’s today’s knowledge nugget: stop measuring your worth by who reaches out first. Your value is never up [00:02:00] for a vote. Not from your friends, not from your family, not from your spouse, not from the media, or social media for that matter, and certainly not from an unanswered text message.

You matter because you matter, period. Keep showing up. Keep loving people. Just stop confusing their actions with your value. So squad, if you would like to have a… If you’re kinda feel like you’re getting ignored or like you’re not feeling that important, I have an awesome hour power coaching session I can offer you.

It’s free of charge. We just sit down and kinda shine a light on that blind spot. You can do that by reaching out to me directly at 248-739-6362. Again, 248-739-6362, or go to

timetoshinetoday.com/hop. Again, timetoshinetoday.com/hop for hour power. So until next week, stay uncommon, keep serving, lean forward, smile, live, love, and get after it. Absolutely love your guts.