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My man Dale, thank you so much for coming on. Please introduce yourself the time to shine today. Podcast varsity squad. But first, what’s your favorite color? And why?

Unknown Speaker  2:31  

Oh, pill mate. Firstly, thanks for having me today. Scotty I love it. My time to shine, baby. I’m going to bring you in today for you. Blue. Yeah, it’s funny. I’ve got a blue jumper on my favorite colors blue. What’s yours?

Unknown Speaker  2:44  

I thought you’re gonna run with a teal because I’m looking at this TEDx speaker thing you feel like pink and stuff? No, it’s often inspired when you go over, I’m going to drop it in the show notes. Make sure you go check out sugar life. It’s actually sugar dot life. And you got to check out his TEDx man, he would have me on my feet rocking, rolling, clapping, and doing all kinds of just funny funky stuff, man. And but my favorite color is purple. It’s regal. It’s a mix of red and blue. Because I can be right on fire. Sometimes trust me much, my staff knows it. And then also the chill blue, which I’m literally looking at the Atlantic Ocean right now. And the sun setting behind it. So it really brings out that blue man. So that’s fantastic. So let’s get to the origins Brother, let’s get to the story here of living that trigger life brother.

Unknown Speaker  3:33  

Yeah, so as you said before I was a teacher. So I’ve toured all over the world. And with that, as well found a love for education and fitness. So I had a large fitness business that I’d run in the mornings and nights as well. And one thing I found if people didn’t, they got sick of exercising, particularly in the cold months. And if you could incorporate a bit of fun, so particularly play where people have no idea what they’re doing. So they’re just having fun, they’re connecting, but by the end, they’ve done a full workout or I found ways to do that in the classroom as well. You know, kids are sick of sitting in lines learning the same way. It’s boring, the teachers up the front chalk and talk. It’s this traditional way that isn’t engaging. And you think we leave, we leave school, we don’t sit in lines, we don’t have bells, like we get taught, you know, we get taught all these things, and in the real life hits us and what do we do? So I found if you can make whatever you’re doing fun, so incorporating play into it. And not only are they learning or moving their body and getting the benefits, but they’re also connecting through play, you learn how to you form your strongest social circles, you figure out how to win or lose you build resilience, all these different skills and a big thing I talk about I call it play bass mindfulness. And for me, I try and meditate or do different things. But I can’t really sit still. So when I am playing or I’m in flow, that is my mindfulness because I’m not thinking about anything else. I’m so present. So I’ve found a way to now mix that up. into sessions where I teach adults, particularly the benefits of play, you know, and, and finding that inner child because our lives are too busy, they’re stressful, where, where Go, go go. Whereas slowing down and just having some fun every single day is something I’ve found that people have forgotten how to do, particularly after two years of gourmet COVID. It’s generated, people have forgotten that joy. And that’s my, that’s my passion. I want to bring it back to people. So hopefully, I can share a little bit of that today, because that’s what I do full time now.

Unknown Speaker  5:32  

Is you simply based mindfulness a deed. Yeah. So that’s, yeah, you because when you’re playing, you’re just you’re kind of in the moment, you don’t really give a shit about what’s out there and what’s going on. It’s like, in that moment, if you can play Wow, that’s amazing, man. You know what that reminds me of? It reminds me of a dog. Like my PayPal, right here. He’s just waiting for me. Like, he knows he gets his walk tonight, you know, but he’s just so in the moment, but he’s playing all the time. And he and that’s the reason why I have a pivotal because he is keeps me in that moment. Man play, they have a good time. So what can he do come up with this? Like, I understand you’re a teacher, and you said something about shocking. In like, rules and stuff like that? What made you kind of come up with this concept? And then really, how did people buy into that?

Unknown Speaker  6:22  

Yeah, well, it was, I went through a pretty rough period in my life about eight years ago. My life, I was never present, I was always chasing that next thing. So I was always I’ll be happy when I get a new job, I’ll be happy when I get a promotion, I’ll be happy when I create something or have you want to buy a house, buy a car, all these different things. And what I found was whatever I was doing, I was too busy chasing something, and I wasn’t living life. And I went through a pretty bad divorce. And at the time, I just sort of, I’d pushed away so many people in my life because I was just so driven on being successful. And one thing I realized is I was so successful, but I wasn’t living life. So it was I successful known. As a narcissist. I pushed away friends, I know, we spoke about these last recovery, maybe. I mean, I think I think I still have moments of it every now and then. But I think what I’ve come through, one thing I figured out is I needed to have fun every day. And one way that when I was going through everything, the only way I could stop my mind going crazy, was having a short play breaks. And I was able to walk my dog or at the time I was still teaching. So I was a bit selfish, and I made the kids, I’d stopped the class. And we do these simple little activities. But I do three or four a day. And as I slowly did that, I started to feel better about myself, I started to connect with other people. And I realized that these little activities that people think are just fun, there’s so many other benefits in it, because you know, I wasn’t thinking about did I feed the dog in the morning, have a paid my mortgage, what I’m gonna eat for dinner, because I was so present in the moment with what I was doing. And when your mind is chaotic, when you’re going crazy, and you can’t control anything, to have a five minute break, and just nothing, that present moment makes a gift. And that’s where it come from.

Unknown Speaker  8:09  

I love that you called it a gift. And I I have like my daily sabbaticals. And during this, there’s probably more than one my day again, it’s like my dog gets, you know, I make sure I my my watch my my Garmin here, you know that he gets a mile, you no matter what. So I kind of break those down. He has one leg shorter than the other. So he can’t go that far. So it might be four quarter mile walks. But during that time, I let my mind just kind of do what he’s doing and just kind of want our love that. Love this concept. So do you deal with that deal with? Do you help groups of people? Or do you ever work one on one with people? Or what’s your story there?

Unknown Speaker  8:49  

I do help people one on one. But I suppose the real benefits of play when you’re in a in a large group. And a lot of time, you know how many conferences or things you’ve been doing some guys? Oh, we’re doing ice icebreaker. Straightaway people like I don’t want an icebreaker. That’s junk, because normally they’re an ice maker, you go around the circle and the lion lights on one person and Hi, I’m Dale, I’m from Australia. Look, no one cares. They’re so nervous about what they’re going to say. So true. Yeah, that’s so true. So don’t don’t label anything. I never, I never label anything. I just say we’re going, can you just follow along with me? Or can you do something so people don’t build up a pre perceived conception that they don’t want to play because they don’t know what they’re doing until it’s actually done. And then the lesson takes place later. So a lot of the work I’ll do is within large groups. So we’ll go into a corporation or, you know, like do a big function or do a keynote. There’s so many people in the room but nobody’s looking at anybody else because they’re so they’re so in tune with what they’re doing. And that’s the beautiful thing of it. You can bet have 300 people in the room, but you wouldn’t know when you’re just focusing on what is his idiot at the front doing with crazy pajamas on your enemy. He’s got like they’re in the middle Men. So a lot of the work I like to do is in groups. Because I also teach people that if you want to get the best out of anybody, it’s not about winning or losing, it’s not about putting the limelight on anyone. And I think that’s a big thing I see too often is, people go, Oh, you play a lot of games, and or these are some I do. And if you lose, you sit out. Like, that’s not if you’re eliminating anyone or people are losing, that’s not play, or I play isn’t about winning or losing. It’s about experimenting. It’s about trying new things. It’s about being okay to fail. And if you look at today’s society, it’s got people that are too scared to try new things, because they want to be judged. They don’t want to fail, like, how do you learn if you don’t fail, it’s a lesson. So I could go on and on and on, mate. But yeah, choose play in the right way. It’s magical. It’s a magical space.

Unknown Speaker  10:49  

If people label a kind of that fear that they have for doing something and really fear is an excuse to me for not experiencing what you can’t experience and putting, I’m sure when people kind of go into your curriculum, if you want to call it, they, there’s fear there because they’re not used to like unleashing that inner child, if you will, and put it out there. So what knowledge nuggets you drop on people that maybe help them get over that fear, and start living more of a playful life.

Unknown Speaker  11:21  

Yeah, and that’s a love hate, it’s mentioned in a child, because we’ve all got it in there, you know, we’ve all got that little Peter Pan inside of Scott. But a lot of us have just hidden it away, because we’ve got to be serious loss, busy, different things like that. So for me, particularly, I get great results, because I’ll be vulnerable, I’ll be the one that lead by example, Jeremy, like, I will allow other people to do that. And I suppose if you want to get into the space, and you’re not willing to do that, if you want to facilitate the so if you’ve got staff or as a family or a friendship group, you can’t just tell people what to do and expect it to work. And that’s the problem do people go I don’t have your energy, that’s fine, you don’t need my energy. But you need to be willing to put yourself out there. Because if you don’t take that step and show there’s that vulnerability or that vulnerable side of yourself, then nobody else is going to do it in the audience or where whoever you’re with. So the biggest bit of advice I’ll ever give anybody, if you want results, you’re going to lead it, you’re the one that’s got to make that change and talk’s cheap. And that’s where if you want change, actually allowing people to play and doing something, you’ll it’ll all smashed down barriers, I walk into a room where I don’t know anyone, right? And the first thing and you’ll probably see zero conferences, what do people do, they just if they don’t know anyone there straight on their phone, you know, that’s a safety net, within five or 10 minutes of me doing what I do, I call it my routine, I’ve got people losing their mind, I’m very good at it now and and people can learn this. But it just shows if you allow people to be in a safe, trusting environment, where I am taking literally the piss out of myself a little bit and leading the way, then the magic really happens. And, and that’s a big thing. So if you if you want to incorporate this, you’re not willing to buy in full, won’t work. And it’s like so many different things in life. If you want to start a business, you’re not willing to go all in, it’s not going to work. Like who’s gonna back you if you don’t back yourself, essentially, my nugget or truth bomb or whatever you want. Anything in life is worth putting all in. And if you do, the results are amazing. And it’s exactly the same with building connections with play, whatever you’re doing, Scott, you need to be the one that leads it and you need to believe in and go all in.

Unknown Speaker  13:34  

But I love that. And when you’re starting to work with these groups, Dale and you want you’re getting them to kind of go all in what do you think is the biggest? You might have mentioned it before? What what do you think is their biggest blind spot of not wanting to go all in?

Unknown Speaker  13:49  

I think too often people have had negative experiences in the past. And and the older you get the more experiences we’ve had, you know, I mean, like if if you look back to school people didn’t like like sport or fitness because always getting graded or they didn’t stretch and like acting class or doing different things with it, because everybody was watching them at the same time. So I think the biggest advice I’ve got anyone is never ever say we’re going to play a game, or I’ve got an icebreaker, never label anything. Because if you label something straightaway, people will have a perceived idea that that’s not for them. It’s like it’s like when I speak a lot of people go can you give me a big blurb Can you give me all this? I said, I don’t really want to because the more I give you give more people the opportunity to go. This isn’t for me now I’ve done that before I’ll buy into it. So the whole thing is, is just starting off and less instruction straight into it. I start most things I do. And it’s my TED talk. I started my technical with it. They will say you can’t play a game in a TED talk. I said, Well, I play that game because it makes me feel comfortable. So I simply started this clapping game and I say if I say one, I clap and everybody else claps and then it just slowly builds so or less instruction, no, no labeling, and you’re straight into it. And by the end of it, people don’t even realize what they’ve done. They’re like, Oh, that was amazing. But I don’t like playing games, you just did tournament. But if you tell them beforehand, they’re not going to do it.

Unknown Speaker  15:15  

Right. And that is 100%. True. Like I told my story on your show, and my squad knows about my my rebounding my trampoline that I’ve got on stage. And they, TEDx was like, Well, really, and then all sudden, they’re like that it was awesome. Because there’s energy was built, and everyone’s heads going like this. And they’re affirming it, we’re having fun, and stuff like that. And it’s a speaker, you probably get approached afterwards. And people are peppering you with questions, and you probably hear a lot of the same questions. But is there any good question that you wish they would ask you?

Unknown Speaker  15:47  

And I love this question. And my mind would be don’t the question I want if people are, and I’m sure you get this as people go, Oh, I want to do what you do. Like, that’s great. I could see myself doing it. And the question always shocks me is like, what, how can I get where you are? And how do I do it and not be me, no one’s going to be scavo because no one’s going to be down sober. And that’s fine, because everybody’s got their own unique characters. If anyone wants to be a speaker, or lead by example, you need to be authentic. And I wish people would see this, like, Don’t copy how we both speak or how somebody, like take nuggets or take things that they do well, but don’t copy it. You have got your own unique style, and it’s gonna take work. But if you really want something, everyone starts No one starts doing keynotes or doing TED Talks. You don’t just walk straight on to that, you know, like, and I’m very proud of what I’ve been able to achieve. But I’ve worked my butt off, and I figured out I’ve done some absolutely disgusting, horrible speeches, and I reckon I can eat. Okay, you’ve done this. Oh,

Unknown Speaker  16:49  

I get my teachers sometimes to stitch my people. I’m like, damn, where’s that? Oh, I just gotta laugh. I freaking love that. So let me ask you something. Have you seen the movie Back to the Future?

Unknown Speaker  17:02  

I have seen the future. Yeah, let’s give

Unknown Speaker  17:05  

him that dwarfing with Marty McFly. All right, let’s go back to the double Deuce the 22 year old deal. What kind of knowledge nuggets? Might you drop on the 22 year old Dale? Maybe not so much change anything down but maybe help them shorten the learning curve level up maybe just a little bit quicker?

Unknown Speaker  17:23  

I think I love this question. And if I was Michael J, Fox’s 22, two little ducks quack quack. I would a little bingo reference here for the bingo players. Yeah, I would say I would say that I am not my work. And this is something I’ve battled with a long time that the true reflection of me as a person is the connections and impact I can have on people, not what I do for work. And this is something I’ve always struggled with, and particularly the last couple of years, I wish someone had told me that it doesn’t matter what you own, or what you earn or anything like that. It’s how you treat people. And that’s something that I I don’t know, as a 22 year old, I would have loved to been told that. I don’t actually know.

Unknown Speaker  18:13  

I wouldn’t know. And he said to me, no, I

Unknown Speaker  18:15  

know. And and this is the thing. Like I know, we’ve both spoken. And we’re very similar in a lot of ways we, what were generally the way we acted and how we’ve changed. I just think, yeah, I think you can change your story. I just wish it didn’t take me so long to be a better person. So I would tell myself that if I listened, I don’t know. But that that’s the sort of message I work with, in particularly when I’m talking, you know, with 17 and 18 year olds who are about to leave school in the real world. That’s the biggest takeaway is I say, and I did it, I call it don’t buy green bananas. Because if you buy green bananas, you can’t eat them. So I say to him, whatever you’re doing, don’t buy green bananas and wait for the future or wait for something or wait to reach out to a friend and let them know Do it now. Right and, and invest, don’t invest in stocks and shares or Bitcoin even though that’s probably going to be good long term. Invest in the friends and family and people you have in life. Because at the end of the day, that’s all you gonna have. And yeah, if I could say that to 22 year old, I’d say don’t buy green bananas and peanut, because I used to

Unknown Speaker  19:21  

do that. That is Yeah, I hear Yeah, you think you’re gonna live forever in a sense, you know, and you just don’t know what what your Creator is going to do with you. I love that invest in the now in what is there? And if you’re stuck, you know what you’re asking here right? Like ask for help because at that age in a sort of 1718 we they know everything I mean their brain hasn’t physically fully developed yet. So they kind of feel they know everything and then life punches him in the mouth in like, Oh, Mommy, you know, so it’s like, like I love I love that advice you give yourself man. How do you why your dash remember that? You know that little line in between your incarnation date your expiration date your life. state your data hopefully it’s a long way down the line brother for you. Is this world need you? But like that little dash How do you want people to remember that Dad?

Unknown Speaker  20:08  

Yeah, so for me, I’ve one thing I want to do each time, I don’t want to have fun, and I want to help people have fun. So if I can be remembered for somebody that, you know, always showed up, I feel I’ve always got energy. Even Even though last week, I wasn’t on time, always film on time.

Unknown Speaker  20:31  

Buddy Ozs lighting guy. Now, I just wanted to remember that, you know, if I walked into a room I made people feel happy, I made people feel special. I gave them a time and, and I was always present when I was with people. That’s something that I’ve, that I’m still working on. I think we all are. I just want to make people feel like that. I appreciate them. I appreciate being around them. And hopefully they enjoy being around me. And if that can happen to remain on, I’ll be happy. And so far, I think last six, seven years. Like comes and goes and shows I think I’m doing a good job of that. So, but you can always improve and you could always get better. And then that’s what I do each day. I just try and get one step better than the day before mate.

Unknown Speaker  21:16  

I love that you say it’s okay to go off course. Right? If you have to, but just go off course less often, is you could learn like with my narcissism, I was way off course. Right? And like I still like you admitted to like myself, I still have bouts of it. But it’s less often because you’re you’re exercising, flexing your hustle muscle getting out there and doing things that that keep you happy. And that’s what you’re doing. I think that has a lot to do with where you’re at is the happiness. It’s genuine. It’s not bullshit. And and I love that about UTM. So then what do you think people misunderstand the most value?

Unknown Speaker  21:55  

That’s never really been asked this question. I love the questions that you’re throwing at me is that for someone? I know. Same with you last week, someone on the other end of the microphone a lot. It’s it’s nice to be challenged again, with good questions are really enjoyed. I think people misunderstand that Judo mean that you do have bad days, and that you’re not always on even though I do show up. Yeah, I think people just see a perceived thing of what of what you do and the, you know, like social media or whatever. It’s a highlight reel, you know, you don’t post all the negatives on there. So yeah, I love that people think like I’m an energizer bunny, I’m up and about, I’m always there, but I’m not. So I do take time for myself, I make sure I walk my dog every day with no device. So like, I have detoxes like there’s little things I do each day just that I have to do to show up as a person I am. And that’s what I wish people would know that it doesn’t just come naturally. It doesn’t just be on all the time that it’s a lot of work that goes in the background. And if you want to be in a good place and help people and help yourself, you have to put that work in. And I don’t always think people know that all the amount, oh, no, you’re saying with your sabbatical, or your morning routine, or the different things you do each day, it’s going to show up and be that person. That’s work that’s investing in yourself. And I just wish everybody would feel the importance of doing that. Because then I think that I just think people would be in a happier place if you if you invest that time. So the thing I’d love people to realize about me is I’m in a good place now because I’ve worked my butt off and put the work in place. I don’t want to pay any more. And I want to keep improving.

Unknown Speaker  23:39  

And that that’s so transparent. I appreciate that. So yeah, I mean, you’re like me, very gregarious, and it’s such a great way you know? Is there a introverts Id like can you go to a restaurant sit by yourself order of a meal enjoy it?

Unknown Speaker  23:58  

I suppose coming from working you know doing speaking all over the world a lot of time you are by yourself. So I do like it sometimes but then I’d also I’d saved before COVID Yes, I could do that now. I really battled over the last couple of years I needed I feed off people’s energy

Unknown Speaker  24:19  

there’s obviously your builder love it

Unknown Speaker  24:23  

yeah, so like i i I battle a battle with that I need to be around people I need I feed off energy they feed off me so yes, I can go home and have a meal by myself but I don’t really enjoy it if that makes sense.

Unknown Speaker  24:36  

Fair enough. Thank you for again you’re freaking transparent guy man. I love this so then what keeps you up at night?

Unknown Speaker  24:45  

I saw

Unknown Speaker  24:47  

energy you shut it down easy. Yeah,

Unknown Speaker  24:49  

I can’t I can’t I think by by the end of the night. I’ve got like a few different routines to do with my wife couple of fun little games where we you know, practice gratitude or different questions. I sit on the couch to do a bit of stretching, and then I’ll go to bed. And I find I find I sleep not bad. If my young son doesn’t wake me up like he did last night, who you can see the suitcases under my eyes. Now, I do I do sleep well, because I feel I work the whole day. That yeah, so it fills me up at night. I think like a lot of people, you know, the worry the worries of the world. But I think it as I’m going along, you control what you control. And I’m starting to realize that now that a lot of people worry about things that they can’t control or things have gone. And again, it just comes back to being present. You know, like the past has gone now keep stress, the future may not even happen and I’ll build anxiety. I don’t want either of those have had them before. Sure. I want to be right here right now. And essentially, that’s how I sleep.

Unknown Speaker  25:51  

And I love that you throughout the V word again that vulnerability man. That’s that’s again, it’s it’s so refreshing. And there’s not a lot of lipstick on this pig of you know, my little podcasts I have done I love it. They are just coming strong and straight. So Dale, what is your definition of a life well lived.

Unknown Speaker  26:10  

life well lived is, like I said, again, Scott that to remain when you can look back at things, everything you’ve done and be proud of. And even if you have made mistakes or things hiccups along the way that you’ve done something to improve that. And I think that’s the biggest thing that I try and work on that I’m still not perfect. And nobody is and I still make mistakes. I still upset people, but it’s the action or the reaction I take after that to make sure it doesn’t happen so that I level up I grow as a person and that they know that I am sorry. Whereas previously my sorry, was just in my vocabulary. Scott is just a word because I was like Sorry, move on. I’m not going to change

Unknown Speaker  26:51  

where you want to get away with something you want to get past something. That’s what sorry.

Unknown Speaker  26:56  

And I didn’t care too, but I didn’t care too. And I can say that now because I’ve done the work I’ve put it in and I actually didn’t care about the impact or what I was doing because I was so caught up in myself and that they are what life well lived. That is not a life well lived. That’s a that’s regretful and it wouldn’t be regretful if I was still doing it but I’m not and yeah, so I want to be remembered for you know, trying to be the best person I can each and every day and working on that

Unknown Speaker  27:25  

time to Saturday podcast versus squad we’re back and Dale one day we’re gonna meet in the flesh face to face. We’re gonna have a discussion and each one of these questions you and I will probably talk 1520 minutes about whether it’s over a brand grenade or two or a protein shake or whatever right so you got five seconds to answer each one with no explanations. You ready to level up?

Unknown Speaker  27:48  

Love it. Let’s go. Let’s

Unknown Speaker  27:48  

do it. Man. What is the best leveling up advice skills I’ve received

Unknown Speaker  27:54  

at each day be better than the last one. Yeah,

Unknown Speaker  27:57  

that guy in the mirror for sure. share one of your personal habits that contribute to your success.

Unknown Speaker  28:02  

Getting up very early working out and practicing gratitude. Love it.

Unknown Speaker  28:06  

Love it. So other than your book all work no play. You see me walking down the streets of Melbourne or something like that. Like Fergie looks like he’s in his doldrums. Man. What book might you him?

Unknown Speaker  28:20  

There’s a Go Giver by a good mate John Berg. Berg, it’s walking his dog. I love it. That is the ultimate book. And I give that to so many people. I love that book.

Unknown Speaker  28:36  

I love it. Most commonly used emoji when you text.

Unknown Speaker  28:40  

Oh, the fire. I love the fat stubble

Unknown Speaker  28:45  

burning up nicknames growing up.

Unknown Speaker  28:48  

My last name Sidebottom. So people just call me Saudi. Probably pretty unique. Last name. So yeah, people already

Unknown Speaker  28:55  

love it. Just checkers or monopoly.

Unknown Speaker  29:00  

Monopoly hands down. Monopoly.

Unknown Speaker  29:03  

Go to ice cream flavor when you go. Boys and berry really nice. I haven’t heard that. My dad eats that all the time, man. Love it. There’s a there’s a sandwich down the sidebar. All right. Is it? What’s what’s on that sandwich?

Unknown Speaker  29:22  

Oh, there’s some real hard covering. But in the middle of Julie. It’s fun and it’s playful. And everyone enjoys it. It’s like it. I don’t know if you’ve ever had a battered Mazda. I don’t know if it’s an Australian thing where they fry malzberg Exactly like that is bad and doesn’t look good be tasted that blows your mind.

Unknown Speaker  29:39  

It’s called here we call a monte cristo where it’s like kind of fried on the outsides and also sandwich dude. But there’s just all kinds of love in the middle. It’s fantastic. And the scale heats up the next day.

Unknown Speaker  29:52  

And Heart Attack, attack

Unknown Speaker  29:55  

attack kind of late. So let me let me ask if you You had a time machine, you come back to present day when you’re done with this, but would you go to any time in the past or 20 years in the future, but you come back to today, you can’t change anything you just get to observe.

Unknown Speaker  30:17  

I’d actually love to just go back and observe me particularly like and I think I’d be embarrassed but I’d like to go back and just watch some of the interactions I used to have with people and probably come back and be very grateful for I’m now I don’t want to know the future. But I want to know the future because I’m excited to see what happens. So yeah, I’d go back and just observe and probably be proud of the person I am now.

Unknown Speaker  30:40  

There was a monster keg party back in like 1989 I’d love that night to Edinburgh. favorite charity and organization like to give your time or money to

Unknown Speaker  30:53  

is a company in Australia called Beyond Blue. done a number of session for him that they really focus on, you know, physical and mental well being. And that essentially, that’s what I try and use play now to do is to improve people’s physical and mental well being so yeah, for me, Beyond Blue in Australia.

Unknown Speaker  31:11  

Love it. Love it. Last question. You can elaborate on this one. But what is the best decade of music 60s 70s 80s or 90s?

Unknown Speaker  31:19  

Oh, are in the 80s I was playing it this morning, Spotify. This is 80s Mix it for some reason. How do I have on 37

Unknown Speaker  31:32  

We’re not that far. 50. So yeah, the Andes it’s so many things happen the 80s and, you know, we had this invasion from Australia that I used to listen to at the roller rink, you know, roller skating you know, it’s like downunder you know, foot forward and for no muscles I love it no ad so man had everything big hair don’t care rap. Beastie Boys Run DMC, you know, you have Metallica and although the metal bands and he had frickin again the invasions in the United States of like YouTube, Duran Duran met at work like yeah, stuff like today, cultural flows the past decade. And I would go back to the 80s in a minute just to visit it and have some fun and the best movies came out here least here in the states in the 80s you know, went back to the future all the Rocky movies and I don’t know that’s just me, and I’m glad we so how can we find you brother?

Unknown Speaker  32:27  

How you can find me probably easiest place if you just searched out so I bought him it’s it’s a pretty unique name Scotty so probably on Instagram and bow Sidebottom. If you want to check out my websites is sugar dot life. If you don’t know how to spell that, I’m sure you can. Yeah, perfect in my book, if you want to check it out. It’s basically got everything I’ve got in there all or just watch my TED Talk. If you want to look short of everything I’ve done, I’ve condensed it into 15 minutes and I’ve got my pajamas on so check it out.

Unknown Speaker  32:57  

It is awesome squat. I mean, I gotta rock some of these pajamas. One time I’m on the trampoline. It’s so funny, but me do me one last solid. They’ll leave us with one last Knowledge Nugget we can take with us internalize and take action.

Unknown Speaker  33:13  

If if you haven’t tried something that scares you lately, give it a go. Because because there’s so many people that I think are living too safe. So try if you’re not trying things that scare you, then you probably need to do need to mix it up. I feel

Unknown Speaker  33:30  

you know, in squad we literally like this was a foreign car car conversation but it was almost like a free masterclass for you guys from my good friend Dale to you know, he taught all over the world, you know, has a love for education and fitness. And we want to remind you that whatever you’re doing, enjoy it, add movement to it, you’ll form strong social circles, you know, build resistance through those circles, so things that are bothering you because the community can help you level up. You know, he believes in play bass, mindfulness, you know, find your inner child, level up your busy lives, like have fun in what you’re doing, but stay present. At the moment, you know, he’s somebody that really kind of kept chasing, not living pushed people away. You know, he learned from that to maybe add some sabbaticals. That’s what we call him here. You know, for him, it’s kind of like playdates like adults sabbaticals. Get away, get present with yourself, build that community from you, you know, he finds a real benefit comes in large groups and you got to get over to his websites in the show notes. And watch him give this TED talk and how we gauge the audience’s it’s fantastic. I haven’t seen anything like it in a guy in pajamas in such a long time. You know, he leaves the great results come from vulnerability, be vulnerable because there’s people out there if you get your asking gear that will help you out. You know, it says you know, a safe, it within a safe trusting environment. That is where the magic happens. You know, Dale goes all in In life, you know, he tells you I love it in his Aussie way, give it a go. If it scares you, give it a go. We obviously do it scared here. And I absolutely love that. I mean, Dale wants you to be unique. Live into that character be authentic, you know, and if you don’t know something, get your asking here, because there’s people out there that really want to help, you might just don’t buy green bananas invested in now, especially with your friends in the family. Because if you’re waiting for that to ripen, time is gonna pass and folks, you ain’t ever gonna get it back. You know, he’s gonna remember to summon to me that’s really planting sheet cedar trees, these never gonna sit in the shade of you. He’s like a little brother from a different mother. Like, I’m serious. Like, that’s one thing about Dell love this cat. You know, he believes that when you look back on your life, be proud of your mistakes, the hiccups that happen, you know, but with that there’s lessons to be learned. And do something about those lessons to improve your life and most of all, to help improve others don’t tell them what to do, but make their life better for living and be grateful. And that’s what my friend Dale Sidebottom does. He loves up his health. He loves us up as well. He’s humble yet he’s curious and hungry. And he’s earned his varsity squad letter here at time to shine today. Man, thank you so much for coming. I cannot wait to rock stages with you someday. And in Collaborate man I seriously love your guts to thank you again. So so much brother,

Unknown Speaker  36:24  

scouting it I know you’re so successful what you do, but if you ever want to come in, like be an intro for me, that’s a that’s the best evaluation of my live intro. Anything made. So by doing what you’re doing, you’re amazing. You’re amazing at it. And I’m just so grateful to be here. So thanks so much for having me,

Unknown Speaker  36:43  

my brother, we’ll chat soon. Hey, thanks so much for listening to this episode of time to shine today podcast. proudly brought to you by Southern New Jersey real estate real estate excellence who can be reached at 561-249-7266 and online at www dot Sutter in nugent.com. If you’re a business owner or professional who would like to be interviewed on top to shine today, please visit time to shine today.com Flash guest. If you liked this episode, please subscribe on Apple podcasts, Google podcasts, Stitcher, Spotify, I Heart Radio or wherever you get your podcasts. There’s a link in the show notes to our website. Also there you will see a recommended resources. We hope that you will support our show by supporting them. If you like where you’ve been listening to it’d be great if you could just give us a five star rating and tell your friends to subscribe while you’re at it. I’m your host Scott Ferguson. And until next time, let’s level up it’s our time to shine

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