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Mitzi, Please introduce yourself to the Time to Shine today podcast varsity spot. But first, what’s your favorite color and why? My favorite color would be purple. Purple. I think it’s a calming color. Yeah, nice. For me, it’s calming, but that’s one of my favorite colors. Love it. What’s your nationality? Oh, I’m Puerto Rican. Puerto Rican. And I say this because I have a lot of Puerto Rican friends, ecuadorian friends that are female. And you’ve? Blue, which is a chill color, right. The red, that’s the fire color. Right. So you have the Puerto Rican web. And actually, one of my jiu jitsu training partners, he’s Puerto Rican. He has a Puerto Rican wife, and he’s like, oh, man, I got a sand or good side. So the mesh of the blue and the red, it makes that purple. Plus it’s regal, plus it’s in your color wheel. So I love it. I love it. It’s yeah, that’s absolutely true. A little bit out of your story. I want to see where you kind of came to become maybe a little bit of the roots that got you into really knowing that everything is possible if you really want it. Not need it, but really want it. No, I like that question, and I think that’s a question that we all need to ask ourselves when do you actually really want it and when do you think it’s actually possible for yourself? And it’s with me many years to get to that point. I think, as it does everybody in life, we all have to ask ourselves that question when is it going to be possible for myself and. I started asking that question back in 2017 and 2018. Around that time, I was in a rough relationship. Excuse me? And I was just doing whatever the man wanted to do, and it was taken away from me and my identity. So then I realized, like, when is it going to be possible to myself, like, when are you going to make it real, Missy? You know? And when are you going to really put yourself out out there? And that’s when I realized it was enough. It was enough with that relationship. It was enough with all of my default settings of just being comfortable in my own chaos and in what my family told me and what people told me in that hot messery. You know what I mean? Because at the end of the day, hot mess. Could you share maybe? What was that final trigger? Without getting too personal, I understand that there’s another human being involved, but what was that trigger? Were you just sitting there saying, man, I’m freaking done, and this is what I’m going to do? What really kind of led. If you don’t mind sharing. No, not at all. I was on the couch. We were playing Call of Duty, and it was like the 5 million times we played Call of Duty. And all I wanted to do was just write. I just wanted to write what I was thinking, right. What I was feeling was just what was going on, right? But as soon as I grabbed that pen and paper, the person at the time, they were just confused. They were looking at me like, why would you want to write? What’s the point of writing? And then I told them I wanted to write a book. And they were like, well, books are dead. Nobody likes to read anymore. And I realized it was just from one person’s perspective. I had to do what I needed to do because in my heart, I knew I needed to make this possible for myself. And I think any listeners out there that is coming through having that hardship in there, and they’re constantly feeling like people are telling. Them to do what they want versus what you know you want. Right? I think that’s when you have to really tell yourself like, no, I have to stand up for myself. And then that’s when you really make it possible for yourself. And that’s what I did. What did you do? Because there’s people out there right now, they’re like, man, I know I need to get up and level up and get out of a certain situation. But what was that first step outside side of making that decision, that commitment? What was the first physical thing you remember doing? I remember getting up and walking away, praying and telling myself, what can I do? You know what I mean? What steps can I do to get to that point? So my first step was to leave the relationship. My second step was to then get myself in a place where I feel comfortable. Just to be me, you know what I mean? To just be my most authentic self. And even if that means being within. A different family or just being by yourself. Whatever the scenario may be for each personal individual, it most definitely comes down to, what are you willing to do for yourself? And that’s basically what I had to do. I had to get myself out of the situation. And once I cleared my mind, the ideas and the stories and everything just came to me. Wow. It just came to me. So then I that’s when I started Mitsy thinking, because it’s the podcast, it’s the blogs, it’s the children’s books, it’s the novels, it’s everything, because all I can think of is just everything. I just felt like I had to share it because anybody could be going through What I’m going through. You know what I mean? Anybody could be stuck in a rut or just stuck in their own words that you want to keep telling yourself and just meditate stories. Right, exactly. Because we don’t realize that we meditate more than what we Actually. Know what I mean? We meditate on negative words and negative outcomes and negative situations constantly that we don’t realize we are keeping ourselves stuck. Right? You know what I love about your process or the protocol you took, Mitzi, is that you prayed about it first, which everyone knows. I’m a Christian, dude. I’m proud Christian guy. But secondly, you ask yourself questions what can I do? What is my mission? Where do I see myself? And even with my coaching clients, I have to write out the ten most powerful questions that they can ask of themselves. Because a lot of people will be like, say all these affirmations, which are great, but our minds are programmed. Our brains are programmed to solve problems. That’s what’s God gave us minds to do. So if you’re asking those powerful questions, your mind starts looking for those answers. And it just spilled out through the keyboard on the paper. I absolutely. Love that. So when you first sat down to write that book, was it always kind of a children’s book that came to mind? To be honest. No. Okay, to be honest, actually, it was my novel. You know what I mean? It was my novel that I started writing back in See, around that time. 1718. When I started writing it, I would do, like, one page at a time, and then it’ll eventually lead up to five pages. And before I know it, I was doing a chapter a day. And then I realized once I was getting close to the end and I would reread it, I would realize, oh, this book is going to take me a lot longer than what I expected, right? I then all of a sudden, I started hanging out with my nieces and nephews more and kids at all under ten, they bring out this creative. This imaginative side of you, and it makes you be goofy and silly and just the possibilities are truly endless when you are around children, you know what I mean? Right. And when I was around my nieces and nephews, they’ll bring it out of me and I would just go, well, what if this and what if this and what if that. And I just was creating this what if mental mentality. And it was in a positive direction because you can go whichever direction, but mine went into a positive direction. And that’s when I started writing down my books. Writing down the ideas turned into a book. That just goes to show, like, children who literally, physiologically, their brains are mush until 25 years old, believe it or not. I mean, they get a little hard and hard and hardened. But you watch these kids, they’re born sales. Like, you go through a checkout line and how many times they ask candy. Like foreign salesman. But I love that you’re giving them the opportunity to know that things are possible because kids are told no an average of 135,000 times by the time they’re 13 years old. Not crazy, hundreds by their parents and other authoritarian figures. So you gave yourself a voice to children, and that what a better place to learn from. Right. Insane. That’s that’s beautiful. So you’re with a person now that is your husband or your partner in life. Right. And how is he with him? And then the rest of your family, are they supportive with your endeavors of really finding out what’s possible? Yeah, I think once I made it clear to everybody the woman that I came back being and I wasn’t going to tie tolerate disrespect, I wasn’t going to tolerate belittering, I wasn’t going to tolerate a lot of things. And at first. Kind of just like, stumbled everybody by, like, okay. But, you know, after a while, they realize missy is really what she’s about. Right? You know, I think that’s one thing is that boundaries has to be put. When you try to make something possible for yourself, you got to realize that boundaries are very important, you know, important for your self growth and as well as everybody else’s. Because once you start adding those boundaries, then people will realize, you know what? I can do this for myself, and I can really make what I want possible. And it’s nice because now my nephew, he says I’m his favorite deity because I write books and he calls me to give me random ideas. That is awesome. Just that energy is flowing into your nephew. That’s that’s beautiful. So let me ask you something, Missy. I’m not going to ask your age, because that’s not my business, but have you seen the movie Back to the Future? Yes. Okay. Let’s go back to, say, the 18 year old Ms. Okay. What? Let’s get that to Lori Marty McFly. Remember the movie? Right. Let’s go back to the 18 year old miss. What kind of knowledge nuggets. That’s what we call them here. Time to shante. What kind of knowledge nuggets would might you drop on her? Not so much to change anything because you’ve got almost two beautiful children, one beautiful child, awesome family like that, but maybe help her shorten the learning curve blast through and level up maybe just a little bit quicker. What might you drop on that 18 year old mitzi? It’s okay to be alone. Really. Okay. And it’s okay to figure it out alone. And I think going to God is very important, too, because I think around that time I was struggling with my walk with God. And once I finally got that down. Life obviously never going to be a roller. It’s never going to be like a straight shot, but it became easier at the same time, you know what I mean? Yeah. Once you find God, it’s like you realize life hasn’t really fully changed, but life has fully changed at the same time because you don’t actually feel alone. You know what I mean? Right. So the reason why I say it’s okay to do it alone because physically you are always going to feel alone, but spiritually, you’re never alone. You know what I mean? Yeah. That’s amazing. And being alone, like there’s a whole cliche that you can’t love anybody else unless you love yourself or the plane is going down. You put your auction mash on first and whatnot. But you have to really love yourself and get there. I when you get to a point where you need help, you like my good friend Lee Woodford says, get your asking here and you ask the people in your close community that you really trust. So. I love that. I love that. How do you want because you’re a published author, you have a fantastic podcast, you absolutely someone I immensely respect. But how do you want your dash? Remember that little line in between your incarnation date and your expiration date, your life date, your death date? Hopefully it’s a way down the road. But on your tombstone, how do you want your dash remembered? Think I would want it to be, not to. Because I don’t want to live for a legacy. I want to live for a purpose. So I feel like that would be one statement that I would want on my tombstone or on my earn or whatever. But I think that would be my main point, because in life, that’s how I see it. I’m not living my life for a long legacy, for what I can leave behind. I’m living in purpose. And if that creates a legacy, well, then that’s a blessing. For everybody else. You know what I mean? Because when you focus too much on legacy, it puts so much pressure on yourself. Right? And the thing is, what’s beautiful about it is you’re already creating a legacy with almost two human beings on this earth. And having you as a model is absolutely amazing. So, Mitsy, when you’re not prego, what keeps you up at night? The stories that I don’t write down. Because sometimes I get ideas for other novels, for other children’s books. And when I don’t just write them down at the moment when I have them, I just start festering in my mind. But I don’t want to be one of those people that wake up at 02:00 in the morning or just can’t sleep. So I just you know what I mean? Sometimes I feel like it’s a little weird, but that’s my own judgment. I’m. It’s like sometimes when I just don’t do something as simple as just In reality. writing down my thoughts can really come up right now with digital note taking in and everything else. It’s on you if you don’t write it down. It’s funny. I’m 50 years old and it was 1984, I was twelve and I woke up and I’m twelve years old and I and I have this song in my head. I’m like, this is going to and I’m no near a musician, but this song resonated me and I didn’t write it down because I didn’t know anything about that at twelve years old. But man, I think that I would be on stages with this song. I still can’t remember it, but it’s the one thing in life that I kicked myself in the butt about. It’s just weird. I got up to use the bathroom and then it’s is just like gone. It was crazy. So, yeah, it’s just living in getting things on paper or in a digital notetaker asking. Absolutely makes sense. So, Missy, what do you think people misunderstand about you the most? That’s a funny question to ask, because I don’t like to ask people that question just because it gives the other person too much power to determine who I am. You know what I mean? Yeah. So I don’t necessarily like to do that. However, people have told me bluntly, like, missy, I didn’t want to talk to you, or I didn’t want to, like, because you seem intimidating. You seem this, you see that? You know what I mean? So I think that’s another reason why I did my podcast, because it shows my realness. It shows my authenticness, my vulnerability, my fun side. How sweet you’re really are. Yeah, exactly. Thank you. Absolutely. And I love that you and I are cut from so much of the same clothes just years apart, but it’s. It’s like I make two New Year’s resolutions every year, and this goes back to 2009. One, to make someone smile every single day. Right there. Boom. I just got it. Okay? And two, unless I’ve hurt you, disrespected you, stole from you, or owe you, I don’t care what you think about me. You know, a lot of people live their life like that. They’re like, oh, wonder what? You know? Understand. So I really don’t care, as long as I haven’t hurt you. And you’re the same way. You just said it. That’s beautiful. So, Mitzi, outside of anything technology wise, no computers, no cell phones, nothing like that what are three things that Mitsu can’t live without? Food. Right? Yeah. The girl needs to eat. Prayer. For communication with God. Even if I don’t necessarily pray, I have to talk to him. I feel deprived if I don’t have some type of way, if I don’t talk to Him. And then my third one, I would say I don’t know how to explain it, but I guess I would say the ability to do as I want. Absolutely. Freedom. Yeah, that freedom. Because to feel confined or to feel restricted, it breaks me down. You know what I mean? As a human being, for me, I just feel the need to have that freedom. Even if it’s just something really quick. Because I know it’s I don’t know if that’s the right word, but I know it’s weird to say being a mother and having kids and never having free time. But in reality, I still try to make a way to have free time. Because if not, I will go bonkers. Absolutely. Sign me up for the mental ward, because I’ll be there. Ms, what is your definition of a life well lived? It’s very subjective. Okay, because a life well lived, that’s very subjective. Well, for me personally, I would say that a life well lived is being happy despite any choices that you had control over or didn’t have control over. It’s just having having that gratitude and just that peace of mind that you are still able to make the best out of the moment. You know what I mean? I think that’s what makes a good life because through the ups and downs and everything in between you can still find that glimpse of happiness in a day. You know what I mean? Love it. And I think when we are able to focus on that then you can really appreciate your life and really say it was a good day despite everything else, it was a good day. That’s beautiful. Day. I love it. Be happy about your choices. We can always choose to be happy no matter the circumstance. I love that. And squad, we are going to take my good friend Mitsy here through our leveling up lightning round just as soon as we get back from thanking our sponsors and affiliates. Time to shine. Today podcast mercy Squad we are back in Mitsy. One of these days I don’t know if I’ll go to Milwaukee area or up in Wisconsin area when it’s it’s cold but one of these days we might connect and we can sit down and talk and maybe have a nice conversation. We’ll probably spend 10, 15, 20 minutes on each one of these questions if we’re. Ask them in person. But our lightning round. 5 seconds with no explanations, and they can all be answered. Okay. That way you write a level up. Awesome. You know what? You’re pregnant. We’ll give you 7 seconds. All right. Thank you. Missy, what is the best leveling up advice you’ve ever received? That’s perfect. Share one of your personal habits that contributes to your success. Making a list and checking it. Oh, beautiful. Love it. If you see me walking down the street and you’re like, man, Ferkey looks like he’s in the doldrums a little bit. What book might you hand me to level me up? Outside of the Bible? I wouldn’t know what book to hand somebody because there’s so many books out there. But usually when I see someone random and they’re going through something hard, you could just tell by. Their face. I try to one smile at them and to compliment something on. Love it when somebody gets complicated complimented. They get happy. They change. Absolutely. Absolutely. So what’s your most commonly used emoji when you text the smiley emoji with the little halo. Halo. Beautiful nicknames growing up. Just Mitsy. Mitsy is my nickname. Beautiful. Chess Checker is a monopoly. Chess checker’s or Monopoly? Monopoly. Beautiful. Go to ice cream flavor strawberry. So there’s a sandwich called the Mitsi. Build that sandwich for me. That’s not fair because I’m pregnant. So it’s going to have weird stuff in it. I would say like the Thanksgiving. Sandwich. Where there’s bread, there’s turkey, there’s stuffing, there’s cranberry sauce. And then you just eat it. Just pour some gravy over the top. I know, and add some gravy. Exactly. I love it. So, favorite charity and organization you like to give your time or money to? I like to give my time and money to churches. Beautiful. Nice. Upset. That’s a good swing. Fantastic. Last question. You can elaborate on this one a little bit, Mitsy, but what is the best decade in music? Sixty s. Seventy s. Eighty s or ninety s? I would say early thousands. Early thousands. I was going to throw that in for you, but all right. Very cool. So, Mitsy, how can we find you? Well, I’m available everywhere. My podcast is on every type of podcast station you can think of. You just put Mitsy, let’s think about it. And you’ll find me. Mitsy. People don’t know how to spell it, but you’ll find me there’s. Tell them how to spell it. Yeah, you spelled Mitsie with mitzi. And just let’s think about it. What is that short for? Everything? Mitzi. It’s short for Mitzien. Really? That’s a beautiful name, though. But I can see where you go. Mitsubishi. It’s a little bit easier to say. I love it. So much easier. So tell us a little bit about the two books, mr. Water and Little Miss Puddles. So I love water. In college, I actually had to do a research paper on water, and it kind of started my spark. And then I started kind of remembering again when I had to talk to my nieces and nephews about water, too. And it’s basically about helping them understand recycling, how to recycle certain bottles, if glass better than plastic, what water is used for. And it’s literally used for everything. So I try to explain that in my book so that people. This can really put you into together and realize we use water more than what we do and what we see and what we’re exposed to because certain people are exposed to more water than other people. Everyone has a different life, but I think once we put that into our next generation’s mindset, they’re able to respect it, you know what I mean? And I think that’s my goal is to have them respect water because water is going to be needed, especially when they get for everything. We’re 80 plus percent water or even our human body. So I love it. Squad, I’m going to do a book giveaway on Time to shine today’s dime but the first person that puts in water puddles in any of our social I’ll make sure that we get a copy of each one of the books sent out to you. I again, water puddles. I don’t care if it’s pinterest LinkedIn instagram a text to our team, whatever it is. We’ll know that you’ve listened this far and. Make sure you get the book. The first person that does that and Miss, you also have another novel kind of going on called Disgrace, which you actually started writing that before, right? Yes. Okay. It’s in the final wraps. It’s the final, like, add on editing portion. I’m hoping that next year can be out and available for everybody come in the fall time. But we’re right now, it’s basically about finding the disgrace in the character, in each of the characters. Each character has a personality where you’ll listen to and you’ll see some people’s disgrace right away and others you’ll see later on. But the point is that nobody is exempt from having some type of disgrace within them. It’s about not pointing it out on others and judging others. You know what I mean? So if you get that point, well, then you’re my type of reader. Right. I love it. I love it. I used to kind of judge people a little bit. And then buddy of mine told me that I respect immensely and he was just like, dude, take care of your own house. And I was sitting in my own house going, and this thing’s made of Why am I throwing stones? glass. You know? I love that. I can’t wait to read it. That sounds like a fun read. And it’s a novel. How long is it ish? Right now it’s under 60,000 words. But but by the time I finish adding the last three chapters, it’s probably be more than that. Nice. Missy, do me one last solid. Because you’ve dropped so many knowledge nuggets on us, but leave us with one last knowledge nugget we can take with us internalize and take action on, I think, the best knowledge to leave you and the listeners that are listening today and the point of why you came to the show. Time to shine. Today you have today you don’t have tomorrow. Because. Thought and you don’t have yesterday because it’s your past and it’s already done. You have today. And once you start realizing what you are capable of doing and making possible today, then you will be able to take advantage of day. Wow, it is so strong. In squad, we had a fun conversation, enlightening and entertaining, but it’s also kind of like a master class. Missy was somebody that knew she wanted more sitting there playing video games and was really just kind of turned down emotionally by the person that she trusted the most. And she knew that there was more things that was possible, but she didn’t want to go back to her default settings of living in her own chaos and she wanted to move forward with that possibility. And then she started to really digging deep on what steps do you have to do to get that possibility? Like we say, inch by inches of inch right by the yard. It’s hard. So she started taking those baby steps and started writing a knob. Which turned into her brain, shifted into her nieces nephews, and seeing their energy and writing kids books. I mean, how freaking cool is that? She wants you to remember that boundaries are super important for your own self growth. And not only your own, but the people around you that are observing you, and that the boundaries are because they’ll know, hey, do I approach Mitzi or don’t I? Is it time to you level up with her, or is it time to back up a little bit? If you establish boundaries, people can read that. And she wants you to realize also that it’s okay to be alone, because, like myself, Mitzi believes in God and whoever your creator is, you might be alone physically, like Mitsy says, but there’s always another power there that you can turn to and lay those problems on to help you carry you through. She’s going to be somebody. That it. I believe Missy lives for the intention, not the attention. And the reason why I say that is she wrote that she wants to live a life of. Purpose and not legacy. And that struck a huge chord with me because I want to live for the intention and not the attention. That’s why I even write micro influencer and all of my stuff, because I don’t care about hitting the masses. I want to hit the people and help the people that are in front of me in that moment and be happy with the choices you have. Because you can decide to be happy. You can choose to be happy. You always have control over your moments, so make those moments count. And then lastly, she said that you have today. And so many people, they have a foot in the future, the foot in the past, they piss all over the present. And Mitsy wants you to be present and know your power right now. And Mitsy is such a person that’s planting trees that I believe she’s never going to sit in the shade of. It was just so awesome interviewing you, Missy, and having this conversation. We’re already friends. But it was just so fun to really get this out to the squad. You level up your health. You level up your wealth. You’re beautiful, you’re humble, yet you’re hungry. Thank you so much for coming on. I absolutely love your guts. Thank you so much for having me. This was a great experience. I’ll chat soon. Bye, now. All right. Bye.

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