She, we really dig deep into her Haitian past or I should say Haitian history fantastic framework with her family how she has. Her kids like excited about moving out in the world and doing some work. I mean, we cover everything in this, not just business, but , we got into a little personal as well.

And she’s so great. I’m so grateful that she was an open book and shared. So if you [00:01:00] like it, please smash the subscribe button and the like button. My sponsors and affiliates. Absolutely like that. Love that. And without further ado, here comes my really good friend, Daphne Valcin from Valcin Strategic Solutions.

Let’s level up.

. Hey, time to Shine today. Podcast Varsity Squad. Welcome back to another powerful edition of the Time to Shine Today podcast with Coach Fergie. I’m your host, Scott Ferguson. Blessed to be your gap coach, specializing in performance mental conditioning, working with professionals and amateur athletes, business leaders, entrepreneurs, entertainers, C-Suite, and students to help them bridge their success.

To live a life of options and not obligations on this platform. We are stoked to bring you high performers who are not just chasing and attaining success, but are redefining it through providing above and beyond service and. I’m gonna bring you on a, a legit powerhouse who doesn’t just talk transformation, she delivers it at the highest level on this planet Earth.

I’m beyond pumped to welcome Miss Daphne Valcin, a master certified coach, which is kinda like the highest coaching certification you can [00:02:00] if you’re the 5% of the coaches worldwide habit. And she’s earned it by coaching over 400 plus. Across four countries to their next level of greatness. She’s not only been featured on forbes.com, but she’s also been trusted by giants like UnitedHealthcare, Lockheed Martin and JP Morgan Chase to shape their top talent, ignite employee engagement and elevate cultures from good to legend dairy without whether it’s career growth.

Business breakthroughs are unlocking elite performance. Daphne doesn’t just play small, and today she’s bringing the fire to help you stop playing small too. Ms. Daphne, thank you so much for coming on. Please introduce yourself to the Time to Shine Today Podcast Varsity Squad. But first, what’s your favorite color and why?

Ooh.

Daphne Valcin: Good question. Alright. That was a great introduction by the way. What am I, you lost. Best I’ve ever heard. But I would say favorite color? Sky blue. Sky blue. Which interestingly enough is in your background. It is. And why? I feel like there’s a certain feeling that’s communicated by when [00:03:00] people see that color, whether it’s outside or Yeah.

On someone’s clothing or somewhere else. Sky blue is just a vibrant. I feel like a hopeful, upbeat color. Yes. And like, I’m not trying to rub anything in, but I’m looking at the Atlantic Ocean right now with the sky blue that’s over here to my right and squad. If you’re watching a Vimeo or YouTube, it would definitely be in her color wheel.

L. Scott Ferguson: She’s absolutely stunning, but she’s also a rockstar powerhouse, so I love, love, love, Ms. Stephanie to get to your roots, like how, how did you kind of come up now to where you’re rocking over 400 plus clients across four countries? This is a huge story. I’ve been waiting to kinda have this fun conversation with you.

Daphne Valcin: Thank you so much. Thank you so much. So I grew up with a father who was committed to excellence in all things and a mother who taught me the value of coaching. So my parents are Haitian immigrants. Nice. And came here around 19, 20 years old. And my mother was able to get her bachelor’s degree by the age of [00:04:00] 40 associate’s degree by the age of 25 after coming to America and not speaking any English.

So and I was, when I was growing up, my mother used to be telling the teenagers who would stop through my house before they walked to school. She would tell them, Hey, I would love to learn about what you wanna do when you grow up. And based on what you wanna do. Do the exams that you need to take?

Do the degree that you need to get? Alright, so make sure that you study, make sure you do this. Here’s some advice I would have for you. So she was the first coach that I observed. Fast forward my undergraduate degree was in public relations. Spoke at my college graduation, my graduate degree. Secondary education, English. And then I spent a lot of my years working in managing programs in public policy work and realized that the through line was tapping into the potential of people and their ideas. Wow. So in 2014, I became an entrepreneur. And have had my business ever since. But it was really the foundation that my parents gave me about helping [00:05:00] others and doing things in excellence.

And then also just my desire to see things grow. I love it. And like mm-hmm. Correct me if I’m wrong, there’s a lot of, where I live here in South Dakota, there’s a lot of Haitian population, right? Yes. Did you grow up speaking English and Creole, or is it, like, how, how did that work out for you? Like, so you can communicate across the board then?

Great question. So I spoke English mostly in the house, but my middle school had so many Haitian kids, Haitian, first generation American, or born in Haiti that I learned Creole, Haitian Creole at school. Wow. And, and I spoke it. So my grandmothers, when they would live with us for a while or when they would visit because they didn’t speak English very much and to other family members who didn’t speak English.

So I speak English, I speak Haitian Creole. I traveled to Kenya a little bit. I speak some Ki Swahili, really speak bit of French and conversational Spanish when I can remember it.

L. Scott Ferguson: Just a well rounded lady. This is [00:06:00] awesome. I try, , so when did we kinda form, , VOUSs and strategic solutions on.

Daphne Valcin: Yes. So actually my first iteration of my business was called Daphne Von Coaching.

L. Scott Ferguson: Okay.

Daphne Valcin: And a few years ago, I love

L. Scott Ferguson: to see solutions, by the way. Yes. Thank you so much. I did the same thing. I, that’s why I turned into Time to Shine Today Coaching.

Daphne Valcin: Oh, right.

L. Scott Ferguson: Yeah. So I What was your

Daphne Valcin: business before Scott?

L. Scott Ferguson: It was coaching as well. Okay. Yeah. So, but , we also, you and I kind of probably begin with the end in mind. Right. So there might come a time when we can sell it and be able to sell a name like that. It’d be, , better, , the, the pass it on to somebody else that wants to level up the masses.

So,

Daphne Valcin: yes, yes. Awesome. Okay. Exactly. So what I, what I realized was over time, more and more of my clients became senior leaders, executives within organizations. And I also realized that I always loved speaking. I. As I mentioned, I spoke in my college graduation, my band director, I was a color guard captain.

He would force me to speak to the girls. Okay. That I was captain of about [00:07:00] morals, about who they would be when they grew up. Yeah. About how we should conduct ourselves in school on a regular basis. Yeah. And so I. Didn’t like speaking at all in front of groups when I was younger and eventually learned to love it.

Right? So the speaking piece and the having the executive leaders as clients kind of translated into me eventually doing more training and speaking and coaching. So I needed a business name that would be able to really encompass those things that I do for clients.

L. Scott Ferguson: Love that. And so do you work, like you, you work a lot more with companies or one-on-ones, or what is kind of your structure?

Daphne Valcin: Yeah. So currently I have about 20 one-on-one leadership development clients. Nice. And then I have companies that usually on average around two or three times per month I’m doing training or speaking with companies. Okay. And then I have a contract now with an organization that’s a mixture of coaching.

Sure. And training sessions for that company over a period of about four months per [00:08:00] cohort. Sure. Where I’ve developed a training for their leaders. Right. But ultimately the things that I do all pretty much relate to programs, assessments, coaching, or training.

L. Scott Ferguson: Gotcha. And I know I’m gonna get a look of Oh yeah.

When I ask this question, like, oh yeah. I get so, like, I, I will get brought in to, , a professional team Right. Or a company and. They walk in and the, the CEO or somebody way up there in the C-suite is bringing me in to level up the company. Right. How do you, , there’s always that second or third in a command that’s like, what the hell man?

Why is this lady coming in? I saw there’s that look. Okay. How, what is your like, not secret sauce, but how is, how do you relate to that person to really get ’em on board? ’cause that that person can either be your biggest cheerleader or your biggest cancer. Yes. So I would love to know it because I, I’m weak in this, right?

So I wanna learn from the best.

Daphne Valcin: Yeah. Thank you so much for, for sharing that. So I was once called into an organization to work [00:09:00] with an individual and a team that were having some challenges. And I knew based on what I had been briefed on that, one of the individuals that I would be working with when it came to the one-on-ones may not actually be interested in Right.

Working on their development. And so I del I delved into a whole bunch of professional development on how to work with leaders who may be pushed back, who maybe don’t want to right. To work with them. And here is the gem that I found and what worked in this project. It was. Taking a lot of time to build rapport on a personal level.

And when I say personal, I mean not just like the weather or like news and sports, but really learning about who this person is. Yes. What it is that they’re passionate about, right? Who they were when they were younger. How they came to be interested in the things that they’re interested in now, learning about their family.

[00:10:00] So I did that in this case with this person who was initially resistant. Right? And over time that person shared so much with me to the point where. When I met them in person. ’cause like we started out virtually over time they took their hands in my hands and said, thank you so much. Yes. Really thank you for all that you’re doing for our team.

I love that. So rapport, it’s building treads, it’s building connections, building bridges. Yeah. What we all have the opportunity to do on a regular basis.

L. Scott Ferguson: I love that. And squad you hear that she built rapport with a person that could either, for lack of a better term, make or breaker. , Make, break the situation there.

And what I do with myself is I, I implement what I call being from the motor city. I implement the Ford, the FORD, , family, occupation, recreation, and dreams. If you can find out those four things from anybody that you’re talking to, but especially that person that you really need a breakthrough with, use that, just like Daphne, she got to know the family, where they wanna be, where they see themselves, stuff like that.

So thank you for sharing. That was the best advice you could do [00:11:00] across any board. Like if you’re getting introduced to a new family where you might be dating somebody, you wanna get to know that person that’s, , blocking you back. But you get to know them, get two ears and one mouth for a reason, and listen, they start to accept you a little more.

I love this. This is, this is awesome. So you’ve coached leaders from the Fortune 50 powerhouses to solopreneurs. Right? , That’s hungry for growth. What’s the one internal shift, , that you’ve seen that instantly unlocks like a massive. External results, like what do you see?

Daphne Valcin: Hmm. I’m gonna explain this in terms of a framework that I really, really love.

But I’m gonna start by summarizing it and saying the shift is going from seeing themselves as not having any ability to shift the situation. To being powerful and having unlimited possibilities. Love it. And for those who are listening, that’s, that’s if, even if, let’s say you no longer have your job, all of a sudden [00:12:00] going from saying, I don’t know what I’m gonna do, to saying, well, what new door can open for me now?

Getting bad news and saying instead of, this is an absolutely horrible pos situation. Right. Maybe saying. What can I learn from this situation? Or how will pushing through this help me to be a stronger person or a more peaceful person on the other side? Right? So with this framework, it’s a seven levels of leadership.

Sure. Level one is victim. Level two is conflict. So level one victim, meaning I don’t have any power in this situation. I don’t know what I can do. And with these seven levels, everybody goes to level one and two. Immediately in times of stress, you get really, really sick and you, you’re gonna miss something you really, really care about.

Of course, you’re gonna feel really bad about it, right? So level one, level two level two is conflict true. And so that’s being mad, being angry. I can’t go to my event, right? Or going from level one, how dare that boss treat me any kinda way. Or not even that, but like, they’re horrible and there’s nothing I could [00:13:00] do about it.

Level two is you got attitude with your boss. Right, right. So we don’t wanna be a level one or level two, right? Level two is higher than level one because you feel like you have power in the situation, but it’s not always the best. Right. Level three is coping. It’s going through the motions. It’s saying, you know what?

It is, what it is. And that’s fine. I miss the event. Or the boss is who the boss is. I’m just gonna come to work. A job is a job, right? It’s level three. The best leaders start to be at level five and above, so keep listening. Level four is sacrificial service. Level four. You’re like, I’m gonna go above and beyond and prove that boss that I deserve to be here.

Right? Level four is I’m gonna clean the whole house even though I can’t go to the event I wanna go to, ’cause I’m super sick, I’m gonna clean the whole house. Level five is win-win. So it’s when you start to think what is a, the best case scenario in this situation, right? Maybe it’s developing rapport with your boss and saying, Hey I know that you wanted me to do this specific thing.

Sure. And I can definitely get it done. But I’d love to bring on Jim and Lisa [00:14:00] to help me out, love it. So that we can make sure that we’re able to put this, push this across the finish line in a way that’s really gonna ensure the success of the project.

L. Scott Ferguson: Jim and Lisa within their company or your company?

Daphne Valcin: Yeah, Jim and Lisa. In, in, in your, in your company, whatever company that you’re in. I got you saying as opposed to saying, well, I just level four. Gonna have to work extra hours today to get this thing done. My boss doesn’t like me, the ion, , why me? Instead of saying that, saying, Hey, I’m gonna delegate, I’m gonna get Jim and Lisa on this, on my team, love it.

And I’m gonna tell my boss, but I’m gonna tell ’em in a way that’s gonna. Be answer the question of what’s in it for him for the boss. There you go. So we’re gonna bring this across the line, finish line, just like you want. It’s gonna be great. We wanna ensure success, we wanna make sure the clients are pleased.

I’m gonna bring Jim and Lisa on. Love it. So that’s level five. Level six is everybody wins. How do you be, what I call a culture changer? On your team, in your family, right? How do you create an environment where people want to be there as a leader or as someone who’s working [00:15:00] or in a friendship? Yeah.

How do you become the person who sets the atmosphere? That’s level six leadership. And then level seven is unconditional peace. So how do you be resilient? And I will say I just met Scott, but I feel like. Scott is just like, , now I was gonna put you in here. He is just like flowing water. Like, I don’t know.

The, the piece that you exude is so thank you. Wonderful. And it seems like the kind of piece that comes through experience, like you’ve experienced some things and you have chosen to have peace in spite of everything. Yeah. So with all those levels, we, we go through the different levels Sure. On a regular basis, but the best leaders try to be at level five and above.

Yeah. As much as possible. And I’m gonna give a shout out to Scott, even though I just met him, but he’s just, thank you. Oozing up level seven. Thank you. Leadership. So that’s the, the biggest transition is going from feeling powerless. Right. In whatever situation people are experiencing, people don’t, to realizing that people have power and possibility.

L. Scott Ferguson: Gotcha. What was the number two after Victor?

Daphne Valcin: Number two is conflict.

L. Scott Ferguson: That’s right. We have to have that to [00:16:00] grow. Right. Okay. So that’s beautiful. So when you’re working with maybe one of your one to ones is, is there like any kinda secret sauce that you use to maybe help shine a light on that initial blind spot that there might be trying to get through?

They don’t even know they have.

Daphne Valcin: Yeah. One of the exercises that I have shared with clients is old messages versus new messages. So it’s asking clients, what is it that you’re currently telling yourself about the situation that is not serving you well?

L. Scott Ferguson: Yes. The stories baby,

Daphne Valcin: right? Yeah. It’s the stories.

L. Scott Ferguson: The stories.

Daphne Valcin: We say. The stories. I’m never gonna get promoted. Love that. Yeah. I’m always gonna have an issue with this manager. Yeah. Maybe I’m just not good enough. Like they tell, like they told me maybe I can never date again. Right. I’m not, I don’t do traditionally life coaching, but just in case. That’s you.

If you’re listening today. You do, right? Yeah. Yeah. So yeah. So maybe it’s those, [00:17:00] and then I say, now what are some new messages that you can tell yourself that address those old messages, but that will serve you better in whatever it is that you’re striving to do. And that’s helpful for them being able to identify for themselves what those blind spots are.

L. Scott Ferguson: I, I’m blessed to coach a, a, a player that’s in the NBA playoffs right now, and he’s starting to listen to himself instead of talk to himself, what you were talking about right there, control the conversation. And then he went out the other night and had a great game. He was just, but he was never been under this pressure before.

Right. And I’m like, listen, you’re listening to yourself. Quit and started talking to ourselves like you just kind of mentioned. And I love that the kind of the culture of a company. ’cause I, I see you. And I was taught a long time ago in the early or mid 1990s, that, , do what you love in the service of people that love what you do, right?

Mm-hmm. So I do what I love. I see you do what I love. You love, , but in the service of people that love what you do, they actually see that you love what you do. So they’re receptive to it. I love that aura that [00:18:00] you’re bringing off. That’s, that’s beautiful. Another thing is that like it in these, along with your seven steps.

There. It’s like you, we have to also remind the company that , especially if you’re gonna push ’em hard, that they’re part of something they’re cared for and supported. They’re making a difference, having fun and celebrating their successes of being recognized. For their contribution. And within those seven steps, every single one of ’em is nailed.

So like, it’s just, that’s just beautiful like that, that I love talking to people like, , Daphne squad, because I get to, that’s like, I get like my own little free masterclass and so do you, which is awesome. So is there, like, maybe you’re in that discovery conversation still, Daphne. Is, is there any good question that you wish they would ask you but never do?

Daphne Valcin: Hmm.

Hmm, that’s a good question. Maybe, ah, maybe a good question that someone could ask me in a discovery conversation is [00:19:00] I’m interested in knowing. What exactly do I need to do? Yes. In my work with you? Yes. In order for me to be successful in this process.

L. Scott Ferguson: Yes. What is my part? How do I move out of this damn darn victim thing?

Right. How do I take responsibility, which is nothing more than the ability to respond. Right? So to do that, that’s the exact, that’s why you’re so highly sought after. This is, this is fantastic. This is awesome. So have you seen the movie Back to the Future? Yeah, but I don’t remember it. But yes, saw it. So it was 40 years ago last week, right?

That this movie came out. That’s crazy. Right? But, okay, so let’s get in that DeLorean with Marty McFly. Let’s go back to the double deuce, the 22-year-old, , Daphne. What kind of knowledge nuggets might you drop on her? , Not to change anything because your journey is your journey and it’s awesome, but maybe help her shorten the learning curve during her journey.

Maybe blast through a little bit quicker. What might you drop on her?

Daphne Valcin: What’s interesting I was talking of is that I was talking about that [00:20:00] 22-year-old Daphne this morning with my mother, and what one of the gems that I would drop on her is

know that when people show you who they are, believe them, and that you have the opportunity to choose the energy that you desire to be around you. Yes. Yeah,

L. Scott Ferguson: everything goes around responsibility. I love it. Not react ability. That, that, that’s beautiful. How about your dash? How do you want your dash remembered?

That little line in between your incarnation date and your expiration date, your life date, and your death date. Hopefully it’s way down the line, but like, , like that dash, which one of those chapters in that dash do you hope changed the most lives?

Daphne Valcin: Hmm. That’s chapter. Hmm. I feel like one of the chapters that I hope changes the most lives in the future is what I’ve poured into my children.

And just to elaborate, [00:21:00] I used to go so hard for everybody before I had kids. I still go hard for people now, but I was going super hard. Meaning if I’m in Georgia and you’re, you’re in New York, and you need somebody to cheer you on for something you got going on. I’m in New York. Love it. If you need somebody to talk to, it’s 11:00 PM.

That’s me. If you are, you are short on your rent. And you’re my friend and we’ve been friends for so long, you don’t even need to ask. The money is in the bank. Right? Love it. So what I hope for myself was that, yeah, once I had kids, that I would be able to shift some of that energy and make sure that I’m also giving to them those things that I’ve given to everyone else.

So now my children actually work in my business. They’re seven years old and nine years old. They do administrative work, counting copies. They know how to make flyers. They use Canva. Yeah. They understand what I do in my speaking engagements. They know about investing and retirement accounts savings.

A little bit about real estate as well, [00:22:00] but they also know how to be good to people so they know how to serve, they know how to volunteer, they know how to ask to help get your, we’re also learning balance and self-care. Yeah, because I’ve learned that over the years. So my oldest is like, and can we go out to eat?

And can we hang out at the park as well in the middle of all the work? Sure. They get a’s in school, all that good stuff, right? Yeah. So my hopes are that yes, they’re successful on their own. Yes. But that I’m able to multiply the impact that I’ve been able to have in this world and that my mother’s poured into me and that her mother’s poured into her through my children going out and doing great things for their families.

Yeah. Themselves and the communities around them. You are you, you find your children. Our, I love that you have ’em get their asking gear. Right. They’re asking, ’cause , by age 13, most children are told no 135,000 times on average. Right. It,

L. Scott Ferguson: and that’s the worst thing I could have ever did. I should have explained, took the time. That’s the one thing that I don’t ever regret anything, but I tell her all the [00:23:00] time, , but your kids. Are going to, your offspring are gonna go out there and they’re gonna start at that 5, 6, 7 level, , wherever they go.

And that’s kudos to you. That is fricking awesome. So that, that, that’s beautiful. So what is Daphne’s definition of a life well lived?

Daphne Valcin: Hmm. For me, a life well lived is one where I’m able to connect well with a God and connect well with others. A hundred percent. That’s pretty much, that’s pretty much it in a nutshell.

L. Scott Ferguson: Yeah. That, that, that’s strong. Time to shine today. Podcast Varsity squad, we are back. And Daphne, next time I’m in the a TL we can meet somewhere for a coffee and I’ll probably pick your brain on a couple more things and you probably have more time to explain it.

Each one of these questions, maybe even 10, 15 minutes. But today you’ve got five seconds with no explanations. I promise you they can all be answered that way. You ready to level up? I’m ready. Alright. Alright, miss Stephanie, what is the best leveling up advice you’ve ever [00:24:00] received?

Daphne Valcin: Hmm.

I think it would be Daphne. People remind me of this. You can do anything that you put your mind to. Love it. Jared, what are your personal habits that contributes to your success? Time management. I’m a time blocker. Love it. So you see me at an event or maybe just run into me and you’re like, man, Fergie looks like he’s in his doldrums a little bit.

L. Scott Ferguson: Other than becoming the Ripple, what book might you hand? Somebody that like that. Maybe Flip the Switch View other than the good book also, but, and becoming the Ripple, but like what book has kind of inspired you? Take The Stares by Rory Va. Yes. Great read. Awesome. Your most commonly used emoji when you text.

Daphne Valcin: Face. Yes. Nicknames growing up.

Daf, daf. [00:25:00] And what else? A daffodil. I

L. Scott Ferguson: love it. Love it. Chess checkers are monopoly checkers. All right. Headline for your life.

Daphne Valcin: Hmm.

She changed the world.

L. Scott Ferguson: Love it. Go to ice cream flavor. Go to ice cream flavor, vanilla. All right. There’s a sandwich called the daffodil. Build that sandwich. What are we eating?

Daphne Valcin: Hummus.

L. Scott Ferguson: All right. Alright. Grilled

Daphne Valcin: chicken.

L. Scott Ferguson: There we go.

Daphne Valcin: Maybe kale.

L. Scott Ferguson: Okay. You dig that?

Daphne Valcin: Maybe some mustard. Okay. And on some wheat bread.

L. Scott Ferguson: Love it. Love it. You can eat out anytime. Love that. Favorite charity and organization you like to give your time and or money to?

Daphne Valcin: Currently it’s the Agape Center in Atlanta.

L. Scott Ferguson: Beautiful. Very good. Thank you for doing that. And last question, we can elaborate on this one just a little bit, but what’s the best decade of music?

Sixties, seventies, eighties, or nineties? [00:26:00]

Daphne Valcin: Nineties. Yeah.

L. Scott Ferguson: All right. Very cool. Very cool. Good. So. How can we find you

Daphne Valcin: LinkedIn? Under my name Daphne Bain website is bouncing strategic solutions, but you could find me@daphnebain.com as well. I think those are the my two favorite ways for you to find me.

L. Scott Ferguson: Gotcha. And so you wrote this fantastic book, becoming the Ripple. Okay. Give us a little, and it came out, I believe, last year, right? I believe it was like September, October, something like that of last year. Yes. Yeah. So tell us a little bit about, about your book and like where the roots of it came from, and then who would be the best person to read it.

Daphne Valcin: Sure. Thank you so much. In 2020 is when I created this framework called Waves. It’s making waves growing your influence and your impact. Okay. The reason why I created it was because in 2019, I created a goal to have at least 20. Paid speaking engagements that year. Love it. And I would, my goal was to continue to do [00:27:00] that through 2020 and beyond, not knowing the pandemic would come.

Yeah. In 2020. I ended up having at more than that in terms of engagements. But the reason why is because organizations. We’re asking you to come in and speak about resilience or what happens when individuals may have productivity issues? How do we help to reengage our employees? How do we make sure that our employees are and our managers are treating one another well?

Right. And so I created this book making Waves, and it’s about how to grow your impact and your influence towards your career success based on that framework that I created in 2020, because there was a great, great, great need. For workplaces to have the things that I talk about in that book. So there’s a waves framework in there that I currently still get invited to speak about quite often.

That’s awesome. But it came out of a need basically that society was having as a whole Sure. To really uplevel what employees and managers were hearing that could help them in those [00:28:00] hard times. I love it. So the people who this book would be best for are managers or senior leaders. Professionals who really feel like they’re ready to take their approach to their career to the next level, and also people who wanna change the world.

That’s, that’s always gonna be absolutely the sub subtext. And everything that I do is yeah. A catalyst, right? Yeah. And how can you make a difference and be a catalyst? Hence the phrase becoming the ripple.

L. Scott Ferguson: Love that love. ’cause a wave’s gotta start somewhere. And that ripples where it starts inch by inch.

It’s a CI right by the yard. It’s hard. Everyone’s this big wave, big wave didn’t start from the, the, , from big wave it. It’s a ripple. So then. S how, you know what? I’m gonna do a five book giveaway squad. So the first five people that put daffodil in any of our social, I don’t care if it’s LinkedIn, which I’d preferably be there because that’s where, , maybe our friend Daphne hang out the most.

But you can also text it to 5 6 1 4 4 0 3 8 3 0. We’ll make sure that we get your address. Get that book out to you. I’ll, you can [00:29:00] put it in Pinterest, Instagram, Facebook, wherever you’re at, we’ll find it. And just we will definitely get that book out to you. And Ms. Daphne, if you could please leave us with one last knowledge nugget that we can take with us, internalize and take action on.

Daphne Valcin: Sure. So. We live in a world where we are constantly having to figure out how to address the challenges that come up in our families and our personal lives and our own minds and our workplaces everywhere. One of the things that I would like for people to remember that has helped me to be able to, to live my life in a way that I think is that I can feel really happy about, really glad about, is to constantly remind myself.

And I want you to constantly remind yourself that in spite of any challenges that you are experiencing or that you experiencing in the future, there is always space for possibility. Always space for possibility. Love it. So I just wanted to remind you of that.

L. Scott Ferguson: Love it. And. Squad. [00:30:00] We, I, again, I just had, , a really fun conversation, first of all.

But, , second of all, , I, I, it was basically a free masterclass that we had. She, my friend Daphne, comes from a family, a father that was committed to excellence, and a mother that was committed to coaching and raising her in a way for her to communicate. , She, my good friend Daphne, she really believes in building the rapport throughout the company.

Her seven steps, some victim conflict, coaching, sacrificial service, win-win, everybody wins. Being that game changer and at, for at the end leadership, that’s where it really breeds to. Right? And , if you’re starting to work with a coach, if it’s not Daphne, but you ask them what exactly do you expect to be?

Where do you see this, , relationship going, what do I need to do to be the best of it? Choose who you are. Know that when people show you who are who they are, believe ’em. And then you get to make that choice on how you can move forward with that person in your life. Another big aspect that I took away here is to get your asking gear.

That comes from my good friend Leah Woodford, [00:31:00] and , she said, get your asking gear. Just ask. What’s the worst that they can say, right? I mean, my good friend Daphne, she does things for the intention, not the attention.

She’s not out on social. Look at me, look at me. She’s actually dug deep into these four 50 companies and making changes for them. Not making, they’re making the changes, but she’s the catalyst for that. She’s planting trees. She’s never gonna sit in the shade of, , she believes that a life well lived is to connect with God.

Let that lean into others as well. And remember that we live in a world where we have to address challenges. Remember to remind yourself in spite of the challenges, there’s always a space for possibility. That’s my good friend Daphne. That’s why she’s at the level that she’s at. She levels up her health.

She levels up her wealth, , she’s absolutely stunning. She’s earned a varsity letter here at Time Deshon Day. Thank you so, so much for coming on. I absolutely love your guts. Thank you so much. It has been a pleasure to be here. Yay. Chat soon. DAF Chat soon.